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In reply to the discussion: Trust is earned, not automatic. [View all]

LadyHawkAZ

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18. While I agree to a point
Mon Dec 19, 2011, 05:25 PM
Dec 2011

I think lately it's been carried too far and become an unhealthy level of fear. Caution and awareness of your surroundings are good, but if a woman has reached the point where she suspects everyone, all the time, it's gone from healthy caution to unhealthy paranoia, and I feel like paranoia is being pushed a lot more since the Watson story.

I remember growing up in the 70's, when "Stranger Danger!" was the New Big Thing. We were all carefully schooled by our parents to fear The Stranger who would Pull Us Into His Car, Take Us Away and do Bad Things. It's been debunked recently as not only unhelpful but harmful, since the majority of "danger" comes from people close to the child, and in teaching them never to talk to strangers (i.e. almost anyone) they cut the child off from potential sources of help. That's what this feels like to me- Stranger Danger redux. The greatest rape threat comes from people a woman knows and who has already earned her trust, yet we're once again being taught to fear the stranger on the street to the point of avoiding all contact. This doesn't seem healthy to me.

YMMV

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Trust is earned, not automatic. [View all] redqueen Dec 2011 OP
I think this applies to anything really. chrisa Dec 2011 #1
It does. redqueen Dec 2011 #2
Trust is never automatic. CrispyQ Dec 2011 #3
Schrodinger's Rapist is the term I've heard. iris27 Dec 2011 #4
Excellent blog. Thanks for posting the link. -nt CrispyQ Dec 2011 #5
That analogy became very popular when Rebecca Watson was lambasted redqueen Dec 2011 #10
sort of how i feel about straight people. nt La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #6
i would imagine the blacks feel the same. i can totally understand seabeyond Dec 2011 #7
i think most straight people dont bother to take a lgbt perspective when they state things. most La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #8
i agree with you. i am sorry you dont feel welcome. seabeyond Dec 2011 #9
the last sentence changes..... it seems like you are suggesting that there is not room for seabeyond Dec 2011 #11
the majority very rarely accomodate for minority opinion La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #12
again, it feels like you're saying, not gonna happen seabeyond Dec 2011 #13
i am telling you what i experience as a minority voice La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #14
i have yet to hear any anti gay mentality here. i would hope you had the courage to speak out seabeyond Dec 2011 #15
again, i used the word perspective pretty deliberately La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2011 #16
you were not excluded when i say physical violence against women. seabeyond Dec 2011 #17
While I agree to a point LadyHawkAZ Dec 2011 #18
I think it comes from experience, the level of fear. redqueen Dec 2011 #19
I understand where it comes from LadyHawkAZ Dec 2011 #20
it did make me aggressive when pressed. seabeyond Dec 2011 #21
I was much more meek in my teens LadyHawkAZ Dec 2011 #22
but, i think that is so common and why so many older men go after the young. of course seabeyond Dec 2011 #23
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