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Warpy

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21. Beyond reassuring your sister that you'll use your married name

Reply to pnwmom (Original post)

Sun Sep 25, 2022, 10:47 PM

Sep 2022

which is about all you can do, you've done enough. Beyond admitting that some of the novel is written from personal experience, you need to stress that it is a novel, and any resemblance to people alive or dead is pure coincidence, that you didn't write anyone into it.

Sister needs to know that, also. She might not accept it, but you will have tried.

It's a shame your mother did that kind of damage. It was so unnecessary.

Silly me, I thought gagging one's children stopped back in the 60s.

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One of my siblings wants me to help her remain in the closet our father left decades ago. [View all] pnwmom Sep 2022 OP

Touched cilla4progress Sep 2022 #1

Thank you, cilla4progress. pnwmom Sep 2022 #3

It's fiction and your parents are gone... brush Sep 2022 #2

Yes, I will be revealing to the publisher that I had a gay father and a straight mother. pnwmom Sep 2022 #4

Being true to yourself is first and foremost. magicarpet Sep 2022 #5

Thank you, magicarpet! n/t pnwmom Sep 2022 #6

Best of luck with your book! Keep us posted. MLAA Sep 2022 #7

((pnwmom)) blm Sep 2022 #8

I think your sister will be so proud of "her sister, the author", she will forget to be sad and LoisB Sep 2022 #9

I wish you success with this book RainCaster Sep 2022 #10

Hope it does great vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #11

Send an email anytime. Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #12

Please take good care of yourself. You are much loved and valued here. niyad Sep 2022 #18

Sounds like the book is more important than Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #13

So I have to stay closeted my whole life because my younger sister wants to remain in one? pnwmom Sep 2022 #14

That is your dilemma. i would use the pen name. Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #15

My agent explained that the publishers prefer REAL people, not pen names -- so that could be pnwmom Sep 2022 #16

Seems to me that the sister is creating an unnecessary burden. progressoid Sep 2022 #17

You are kidding, yes? "betray the request of a good family member"? Where did you niyad Sep 2022 #19

I am not kidding. Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #23

Absolutely unreal. niyad Sep 2022 #25

I didn't betray my sister. I just didn't agree to what she wanted. n/t pnwmom Sep 2022 #31

Pnwmom, you are a good soul Hekate Sep 2022 #20

Thank you so much, Hekate, for reaching out! pnwmom Sep 2022 #27

I still have the hard copy signed by my Committee on my shelf at home, & 2 photocopies ... Hekate Sep 2022 #29

Beyond reassuring your sister that you'll use your married name Warpy Sep 2022 #21

I don't blame my mother. Imagine the life she had, growing up in her era, pnwmom Sep 2022 #26

I am sooooo happy and excited for you! Looking forward to reading it. I am niyad Sep 2022 #22

Thank you, niyad! n/t pnwmom Sep 2022 #28

Take care of yourself first... JoeOtterbein Sep 2022 #24

They all have "black sheep" family members like you and revel in the imaginary offense. hunter Sep 2022 #30