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pnwmom

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14. So I have to stay closeted my whole life because my younger sister wants to remain in one?

Reply to Tetrachloride (Reply #13)

Sun Sep 25, 2022, 10:12 PM

Sep 2022

I can't even write a novel with a gay parent?

This isn't about vanity. I'm an introvert who would just as soon keep hiding. But the book, if it comes out, will give me a platform I can use to discuss how "don't say gay" affects real, live, non-fictional children of gay people. Children who can't speak for themselves.

There are millions of us out there, of all different ages, and I rarely hear them mentioned. "Don't say gay" in Florida doesn't just impact teachers and gay students. It affects 7 year old children of gay people who are in real classrooms, whose teachers might get in trouble if there's a discussion of their two moms or two dads.

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One of my siblings wants me to help her remain in the closet our father left decades ago. [View all] pnwmom Sep 2022 OP

Touched cilla4progress Sep 2022 #1

Thank you, cilla4progress. pnwmom Sep 2022 #3

It's fiction and your parents are gone... brush Sep 2022 #2

Yes, I will be revealing to the publisher that I had a gay father and a straight mother. pnwmom Sep 2022 #4

Being true to yourself is first and foremost. magicarpet Sep 2022 #5

Thank you, magicarpet! n/t pnwmom Sep 2022 #6

Best of luck with your book! Keep us posted. MLAA Sep 2022 #7

((pnwmom)) blm Sep 2022 #8

I think your sister will be so proud of "her sister, the author", she will forget to be sad and LoisB Sep 2022 #9

I wish you success with this book RainCaster Sep 2022 #10

Hope it does great vercetti2021 Sep 2022 #11

Send an email anytime. Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #12

Please take good care of yourself. You are much loved and valued here. niyad Sep 2022 #18

Sounds like the book is more important than Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #13

So I have to stay closeted my whole life because my younger sister wants to remain in one? pnwmom Sep 2022 #14

That is your dilemma. i would use the pen name. Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #15

My agent explained that the publishers prefer REAL people, not pen names -- so that could be pnwmom Sep 2022 #16

Seems to me that the sister is creating an unnecessary burden. progressoid Sep 2022 #17

You are kidding, yes? "betray the request of a good family member"? Where did you niyad Sep 2022 #19

I am not kidding. Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #23

Absolutely unreal. niyad Sep 2022 #25

I didn't betray my sister. I just didn't agree to what she wanted. n/t pnwmom Sep 2022 #31

Pnwmom, you are a good soul Hekate Sep 2022 #20

Thank you so much, Hekate, for reaching out! pnwmom Sep 2022 #27

I still have the hard copy signed by my Committee on my shelf at home, & 2 photocopies ... Hekate Sep 2022 #29

Beyond reassuring your sister that you'll use your married name Warpy Sep 2022 #21

I don't blame my mother. Imagine the life she had, growing up in her era, pnwmom Sep 2022 #26

I am sooooo happy and excited for you! Looking forward to reading it. I am niyad Sep 2022 #22

Thank you, niyad! n/t pnwmom Sep 2022 #28

Take care of yourself first... JoeOtterbein Sep 2022 #24

They all have "black sheep" family members like you and revel in the imaginary offense. hunter Sep 2022 #30