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Coventina

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15. All three children are still under 18. The oldest lives with her boyfriend's family.

Reply to hedda_foil (Reply #6)

Sun Jul 31, 2022, 11:09 PM

Jul 2022

The middle child technically still lives with Jacob and their dad, but spends most nights (and days) with her friends and their families.

This is in Arizona.

The dad is not physically abusive. Just mentally and emotionally in that he refuses to even have a rational discussion with Jacob about his gender identity.
The dad also berates him for being gay, because he likes girls.
Jacob has tried to explain that he is a boy who likes girls.

The father is abusive also in the sense that he really does not take any initiative to care for his children. They have been pretty much on their own their whole lives. He has never really parented them, so their house is always a complete disgusting disaster. Since he's blind, it doesn't bother him any.

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Asking for advice regarding 13 year old trans boy [View all] Coventina Jul 2022 OP

Gather resources and information Tetrachloride Jul 2022 #1

He should try the school counselor, dad doesn't need to know about it questionseverything Jul 2022 #2

I was going to say this as well...school counselors can be super helpful FirstLight Jul 2022 #12

Being a teenager is tough in general questionseverything Jul 2022 #13

I'm sure there are trans youth groups that could provide much better help. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #3

Trans Lifeline can help locate local resources KatK Jul 2022 #4

PFLAG can be very helpful dickthegrouch Jul 2022 #5

Who do his sisters live with? Why is this most vulnerable child left with dad? hedda_foil Jul 2022 #6

All three children are still under 18. The oldest lives with her boyfriend's family. Coventina Jul 2022 #15

If the house is that bad and dad is blind and disabled, your friend might be able to get custody. hedda_foil Jul 2022 #19

Good point. I will discuss this with her. Coventina Jul 2022 #20

Which state? Is there a Stonewall type organization? irisblue Jul 2022 #7

Arizona. I will look it up! Thanks! n/t Coventina Jul 2022 #16

To my surprise, Az Dept of Ed has this-Resources for LGBTQ+ Students, Educators, and Families irisblue Aug 2022 #23

University of Arizona LGBTQ student group might be able to give more local advice irisblue Aug 2022 #24

I see you are getting some very good contact numbers and advice. hlthe2b Jul 2022 #8

Check this out for info on FTM clothing. ShazzieB Jul 2022 #9

There are items you might not think of FreeState Aug 2022 #22

If he's interested in anime, manga Timeflyer Jul 2022 #10

Yes, there are places that sell such clothing Tesha Jul 2022 #11

Sadly, no. The sisters are still minors themselves. Coventina Jul 2022 #17

Lots of good points above. I hope the boy gets the help he needs for the challenges in front of him grantcart Jul 2022 #14

You make a lot of good points. I will discuss these ideas with my SIL. Coventina Jul 2022 #18

Huge thank you to all who responded! Coventina Jul 2022 #21