Shirtless in public - it bothers me. [View all]
Not in some weird Fundie Puritan/Victorian way. Because I am stillnunhappy with my appearance. I always thought of myself as wimpy and not at all muscular growing up, was decent as a younger guy. Late 40s, having gained a ton of weight, 55-60 pounds and then lost all but 5-10 lbs of it, let's just say that took its toll. Been trying to work in chest exercises and abs, but still uncomfortable.
I'm starting swimming lessons, in a busy pool, with a young female instructor at that. Not sexist, but I am more comfortable with male trainers - just seems like a guy thing.
My short term solution, I bought a couple of triathlon swim tank tops. Long term, I am vain enough to consider plastic surgery if I can't tone up through weight and resistance training. Honestly, I look better than a lot of the guys at the gym, some are very overweight, but I am insecure.
So, what is your take on this. Is there a line beyond which heavy men should stay covered in public? How about scrawny guys? Is it just as sexist as saying bad things about heavy women?
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