Sexual boundaries (Yes, Assange related)

[MadrasT]

11. Frankly, I like to be asked. But I can only speak for me.

I don't know what "women" think, I only know what I think.

I think every couple should have conversations about what kind of touch they like, and when. Of course you can go overboard asking permission for every little thing, and nobody wants that either. But honestly it isn't that hard to do, and before long you establish patterns of what is OK touch and then no one needs to ask permission single every time. That would be a pain in the ass.

You have decide with your partner(s) where the line should be placed for you, I can't tell you that. But you have to communicate to know where the line is.

I'm just saying, in general, more communication and asking is better than less communication and assuming in my book.

I surely am not trying to come in here and tell y'all how to do it right.... just answered the OPs question to share that I learned that for me, more communication is better than less, and you can establish boundaries pretty easily with a partner if you make an effort to talk about them, which it seems like a lot of people never do.

And I learned all this communicating and boundary establishing stuff from my current (male) partner. I wasn't great at talking about sex and intimacy before. And this precise communicating thing works better for me. When something works, I like to tell other people about it 'cause maybe it might work for them too. (Then again, maybe not, in which case you are free to say "Hey that MadrasT is bonkers, can you believe this? This would *never* work for me!") This isn't wacky radfem stuff, it's just my real life. (Well it might be wacky radfem stuff too, I don't actually know, LOL.)

Anyway no probs. It's cool if you disagree, take it or leave it.


P.S. My comments in this thread have nothing to do with Assange, I am not particularly interested in that case.