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[Bonobo]

33. Agreed. And it goes both ways.

Here is a "scenario" for you to consider.

A man gets in an elevator. Inside is an attractive woman. She is standing near the buttons. She is attractive and knows it. She also knows that men think she is attractive.

The man goes to the rear of the elevator and turns to face the doors as all people do. He is now behind her. There is tension. She feels his eyes on her back or imagines she does. Her shoulders tense.

He is attracted to her but aware of the unease in her body language. The silence continues and onlys erves to increase the tension. He knows she is feeling uncomfortable and he, in turn, feels uncomfortable to be thought of as a "potential rapist".

"Do I not say anything? Isn't it creepy to be so silent? Maybe I should break the ice?"

He tries it. "Hey, it sure is hot out there?" he says. "Haven't I seen you around before?"

He made the remarks, he thinks, to both break the tension and to show that he works here and is not some random stranger.

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What do you think of this interaction? Did he do the right thing? The wrong thing?
Was he aware of her feelings? Was she aware of his?

I think many people could interpret this in different ways.