Stressed over some medical screening appointments today

[hamsterjill]

I am admittedly a real weenie over medical stuff. I could use some prayers today to get through these screenings, and prayers for clear outcomes. So many other people handle these things so much better than I do. I wish I wasn't this bad. Mine goes back to a childhood trauma situation, and the stress is pretty hard.

I thank you in advance, and wish you all a blessed and peaceful day.

[Ocelot II]

1. I feel your pain; I'm the same way.

I hate, hate, hate medical procedures; they scare the crap out of me, which means I avoid them unless I'm almost too sick to move or bleeding from a major artery. Which is stupid. And unlike you I have no explanation; I was never traumatized by medical situations but they scare me anyhow. So I offer you vibes for peace from a fellow medicophobic.

[hamsterjill]

2. Thank you, Ocelot.

I always feel foolish, but I am what I am. It's hard for us, right? A lot of people who don't have these fears simply don't understand. I wish I could be more like "normal" people in this regard. A good friend of mine has always said that it is the loss of control that freaks me out. Someone ELSE is in control even for the few minutes it takes to get through the tests. And I think that's a great part of it for me.

I try very hard not to make things difficult for the medical personnel who are there to help me. Most, I've found, are quite understanding and their calming presence helps me get through. I just wish that I didn't spend a week stressing over these.

I'm going to treat myself to something special once they are over. If I can ever return the favor for you, please let me know. I've tried a lot of stress reducing things and I'll be happy to share with you what I've found that works for me, and what doesn't - IF that would ever be helpful.

Thanks again!

[Ocelot II]

3. Thank you!

[multigraincracker]

4. Just got back from mine with my new cardiologist.

Went great and that’s why I try to pick female doctors. She listen to me.

[hamsterjill]

8. Glad all went well with yours!

It is very important to find "THE" doctor that you have a connection with and can converse with. There are definitely some who don't hear a word you say, and that is unfortunate and dangerous.

[multigraincracker]

12. Go to Rate Your Doctor . Com.

Good place to start.

[Polly Hennessey]

5. You are not alone. I hate them but understand their necessity.

Always remember, hamsterjill, you are doing this for yourself. Staying healthy and happy does take some effort. You are worth it. 🥰

[hamsterjill]

9. Thank you so much for that wisdom.

We are all worth it. It's not fun, but it is necessary.

[SheltieLover]

6. Good vibes on the way to you

[hamsterjill]

10. Appreciate that, Sheltie!

Hope you're having a great evening!

[hlthe2b]

7. You are in my thoughts...

[hamsterjill]

11. Thank you for that.

I appreciate it.

[electric_blue68]

13. Just saw. Hoping for good results! I'm pretty bad about stuff, too. You're not alone

[hamsterjill]

14. Thank you so much.

I hate that I'm this way. I really, really do. But I am. I'm sorry that anyone else has these same stresses. I don't think they are very well understood. But I think there are a lot of us who contend with this.

Appreciate your kind words!

[electric_blue68]

15. Hey, no problemo! If we can shore each other up a bit every little bit helps.

My mom get got very ill w asthma when I was 5 1/2. Very traumatic the first few years but I think I mostly hid my emotions. A big nebulizer helped. She had a few other singular medical events that she had to be in the hospital a few days all before, or one just after I was 16.
She got better, a worry here, and but nothing like before (except one terrfying period when I was ?33 which finally, healthfuly resolved), then my dad started having problems before I was 30 for goodness sakes!

Just made me jittery around doctors expecting problems.
So another for you. 🙂 and 🤞🤞🤞 .

[hamsterjill]

16. The childhood stuff is really hard!

Five and a half is very young. And that's a lot!

I was eight when my mother passed away after a long battle with cancer. I'm in my sixties now, so that was way back when there wasn't much treatment available. There was a lot of trauma - ambulances at the house in the middle of the night, hospital stays, etc.

I've spoken to therapists a few times about it over my lifetime, and the thing that made the most sense to me was this: Your memories of these things are the memories of the age you were when they happened. At that vulnerable age, ALL of those feelings come flushing back. The fear, the helplessness, the confusion, the questions, etc. You are that child once again when you remember the events.

I have to tell myself that I'm not that child. That I'm an adult and that I'm not helpless. I work on doing that during these times, but I have yet to be completely successful in dealing with it. I get better at it, but I never get OVER it completely. I was a wreck over having to get the COVID vaccine, and there were people on DU who laughed about it. No understanding of it whatsoever. There were several other DU'ers who had the same fears, and I met some good friends over it.

So, we have a shared experience, and I thank you for understanding. If there is ever a time that I can lend a shoulder to you, please, you have only to ask.

[electric_blue68]

17. Wow, 8, and losing your mom to cancer. Very rough!...

{hug}

Definitely ambulance trips for my mom on infrequent, but still disturbing as ?6 - 16 yr old. Really any age especially after having lived through it at younger times.

Interesting - re: your therapists about having the childhood memories come up, or maybe reflected in current trauma - along with all the old helplessness feelings. Countering with adult "not helpless" thoughts.

So sorry you had such difficulties with the covid shots. I don't think I was afraid, definitely way more afraid of getting the illness!

Describing the big amory vaccination experience they set up in a realatively near by. You can skip...
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It was the surrealism of the whole thing. In NYC I went to a big Amory next to a big hospital complex. This whole system set up for people to ??sign in, then go to the next area and sit. Then a group at a time would be sent down the area where many office type booths were set up and apart from each other for the client/patient, and vaccine administer to sit. Then the place to sit for either 15 or 30 mins afterwards.
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TY for your offer! 🙂

Eta
You can send good vibes to my sister. I have prayer/vibes request from today Fri.
👍

[hamsterjill]

18. I'm sorry about your sister. I've said a prayer for her.

I will also remember her tonight in my evening prayers when I sit and talk to Him.

I'm sorry that she's going through this.

I hadn't been on DU much today, and i hadn't seen the thread. Thank you for bringing it to my attention.

[electric_blue68]

19. Thank You so very much!