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wryter2000

(47,638 posts)
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 04:03 PM Nov 21

I have breast cancer

It's in two spots. I don't know much else and won't find out until I meet with a surgeon.

I imagine I'll be hanging out here for a while.

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I have breast cancer (Original Post) wryter2000 Nov 21 OP
Pulling for you. Groundhawg Nov 21 #1
So sorry to hear that. Lonestarblue Nov 21 #2
In so sorry XanaDUer2 Nov 21 #3
I'm so sorry. Hang in there. A sense of humor helps. Solly Mack Nov 21 #4
👍💙🙏👏👏👏 LiberalLoner Nov 21 #33
You will be in my prayers LetMyPeopleVote Nov 21 #5
My mother had bi-lateral breast cancer... surfered Nov 21 #6
Best hopes wishes and prayrrs irisblue Nov 21 #7
So saddened to hear of your diagnosis. SheltieLover Nov 21 #8
Much love Wiscodoug Nov 21 #9
Sending you love and healing vibes, wryter. 💙 sheshe2 Nov 21 #10
Sending hugs and hopes for a positive prognosis. Marie Marie Nov 21 #11
I'm so sorry. *hugs* GPV Nov 21 #12
Oh my gosh. I'm sorry. MontanaMama Nov 21 #13
Sorry to hear it. Sparkly Nov 21 #14
Prayers. Take care. Joinfortmill Nov 21 #15
Sadly, I know what you might be going through mchill Nov 21 #16
Yikes... 2naSalit Nov 21 #17
Yes, please hang out HERE! calimary Nov 21 #18
Healing blessings to you Wicked Blue Nov 21 #19
I'm so sorry Ursus Arctos Nov 21 #20
Sorry to hear this, wryter peggysue2 Nov 21 #21
Holding you in love and light. Vibes for best possible outcome. niyad Nov 21 #22
Sending you positive vibes, wryter... sueh Nov 21 #23
sorry oldtime dfl_er Nov 21 #24
I'm overwhelmed wryter2000 Nov 21 #25
🫶🏽 blm Nov 21 #26
I'll be hanging out here for a while. Botany Nov 21 #27
That's a tough diagnosis. I hope your journey is successful. Do whatever the doctors tell you to do and most LoisB Nov 21 #28
Sending best wishes orangecrush Nov 21 #29
Sorry you are going thru this. Waiting is just about the hardest part. japple Nov 21 #30
You will get through this. Holding you in my heart and sending healing waves your way. Oopsie Daisy Nov 21 #31
I'm so sorry. Sending hugs. I went through the same thing last year, cancer in two spots, both of them LiberalLoner Nov 21 #32
So sorry to hear this. I know everyone is different, but my sister-in-law and a good friend both went thru iluvtennis Nov 21 #34
Sending best wishes. Our daughter-in-law just... yourout Nov 21 #35
I know how scary that diagnosis is as cally Nov 21 #36
That's an ice cold bucket of water over your head. 1WorldHope Nov 21 #37
So many great messages wryter2000 Nov 21 #38
I'm sorry to hear this. barbtries Nov 21 #39
Hope it's the best news possible angrychair Nov 21 #40
Hugs and healing from a survivor.... Clouds Passing Nov 21 #41
I'm so sorry wryter. choie Nov 21 #42
Very sorry. You can beat it. sinkingfeeling Nov 21 #43
You are not alone Sun-Moon Nov 21 #44
As a healthcare provider, I can honestly tell you to try not to panic. I totally understand the BigDemVoter Nov 21 #45
I'm so sorry that you received this news wryter2000z livetohike Nov 21 #46
sending warrior strength and Aloha healing rainbows wishes proud patriot Nov 21 #47
Sending positive, healing vibes to you and hugs too. skylucy Nov 21 #48
You'll be okay Figarosmom Nov 21 #49
Get a second opinion Nigrum Cattus Nov 21 #50
So sorry kimbutgar Nov 21 #51
I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis. Wishing you healing thoughts and prayers for succesful treatment. virgdem Nov 21 #52
Trust in yourself to be strong and make good choices biophile Nov 21 #53
We're with you... Mike Nelson Nov 21 #54
Wishing you a quick recovery, and all the best. JohnSJ Nov 21 #55
I'm so sorry for your disgnosis dlk Nov 21 #56
Love to you! Lots of us here are babylonsister Nov 21 #57
We look forward to supporting you as you kick this thing. Teacher of the Year Nov 21 #58
Sorry to hear David Boyle Nov 21 #59
I'm so sorry. Prayers and healing vibes for you. It's a scary diagnosis, but treatments are so good now, highplainsdem Nov 21 #60
I am so sorry. HeartsCanHope Nov 21 #61
I'm recovering from a double mastectomy that I had a month ago sillywabbit Nov 21 #62
I'm fine with removing one or both breast wryter2000 Nov 22 #63
Everyone has been so wonderful wryter2000 Nov 22 #64
Please listen to the nurse navigator kkmarie Dec 2 #81
I'll keep you my prayers. area51 Nov 22 #65
We are here for you. murielm99 Nov 22 #66
My mom and hers both diagnosed AKwannabe Nov 22 #67
Hope all goes well for you. 70sEraVet Nov 22 #68
I walked in your shoes Highway61 Nov 22 #69
I had breast cancer in 2 spots, not related, in 1999. lark Nov 22 #70
you can beat this. Javaman Nov 22 #71
Best advice I got was, "This is not an emergency". Phoenix61 Nov 22 #72
I have been where you are... maspaha Nov 22 #73
Pulling for you wryter2000. Positive thoughts for a complete and uncomplicated recovery. Fla Dem Nov 22 #74
Me too MorningCoffee Nov 22 #75
The same to.you wryter2000 Nov 22 #76
"" AllaN01Bear Nov 22 #77
So sorry to hear this news sdfernando Nov 22 #78
Wishing you all the best for a good prognosis Dark n Stormy Knight Nov 22 #79
Get a good doc you trust Tweedy Nov 22 #80

Solly Mack

(93,253 posts)
4. I'm so sorry. Hang in there. A sense of humor helps.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 04:09 PM
Nov 21

It's true that you need to take it one day at a time because one day to the next is sometimes all you can imagine. Each doctor's visit, surgery, treatments, one day after another. Moving forward.

All you need to handle is what is right in front of you.

Be good to yourself. Cry, rant, rage if you want. I did.

You'll feel what you feel and that's OK.

Hoping for the best possible outcome.

Lot of great people in this group.

They can help.

They helped me.

surfered

(3,950 posts)
6. My mother had bi-lateral breast cancer...
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 04:22 PM
Nov 21

..years between the episodes. She had a lumpectomy, radiation, and took tamoxifen. When she eventually passed in her 80s, it was not from cancer .

Good luck!

Wiscodoug

(85 posts)
9. Much love
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 04:48 PM
Nov 21

Dear wryter, Do not panic. Breath deep, you are in the first chapter of your survival story. Trust your Doctors and breath deep again. Sending love and positive energy.

Marie Marie

(10,033 posts)
11. Sending hugs and hopes for a positive prognosis.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 04:52 PM
Nov 21

Come here for support as often as needed. We care.

MontanaMama

(24,100 posts)
13. Oh my gosh. I'm sorry.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 05:17 PM
Nov 21

I wish you hadn’t been given this news. as if things weren’t stressful enough!!! Science and your DU community are on your side.

mchill

(1,102 posts)
16. Sadly, I know what you might be going through
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 05:26 PM
Nov 21

Cancer will be your job for a while. I know it occupied my brain constantly for the first few years and physically for over a year. As time goes on you worry less and then you start forgetting. I had the works and 12 years later still here!!!

I have decided to take the Galleri test ($995) every year so I can get rid of that last 10% of anxiety about it coming back. I’m not a very nurturing type so I’m not here with thoughts and prayers, but a lot of us have gone through this and have come out the other end AOK. ❤️

calimary

(84,752 posts)
18. Yes, please hang out HERE!
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 05:37 PM
Nov 21

And please keep us posted. Cuz we’re gonna want to make sure YOU’RE still here.

peggysue2

(11,530 posts)
21. Sorry to hear this, wryter
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 05:55 PM
Nov 21

Hang in there. Cancer therapies are far better now than they once were particularly if these spots were picked up early. We'll all be rooting for you.

Botany

(72,741 posts)
27. I'll be hanging out here for a while.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:06 PM
Nov 21

So be it. Enjoy your time here. But I need to warn you about a DU er who posts
under Botany he is nuttier than a squirrel turd.

LoisB

(9,035 posts)
28. That's a tough diagnosis. I hope your journey is successful. Do whatever the doctors tell you to do and most
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:11 PM
Nov 21

of all, stay positive. You will get a lot of support here.

japple

(10,398 posts)
30. Sorry you are going thru this. Waiting is just about the hardest part.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:13 PM
Nov 21

Hoping that yours will be easily treated and not painful. Asking the Universe to give you comfort and peace.

LiberalLoner

(10,226 posts)
32. I'm so sorry. Sending hugs. I went through the same thing last year, cancer in two spots, both of them
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:15 PM
Nov 21

Under 1 cm, in the same breast.

I concentrated on one step at a time.

Getting biopsies done. Check.

Breast MRI done. Check.

Meeting with surgical oncology team. Check.

Meeting with plastic surgery doc. Check.

Finding out the surgery date and making sure my husband could take time off to help me recover from surgery. He took a week off and that was more than enough. In fact the surgery wasn’t anywhere near as rough as my hysterectomy was.

Getting through the recovery. Getting the drains taken out.

Appointment with medical oncologist who told me chemo was not useful in my case and if I got radiation treatments and took Letrozole, my cancer only had a three percent chance of coming back within the next decade.

Appointment with radiologist.

Four weeks of radiation therapy. For me, no big deal. No pain, no sunburn, just a funky tan that faded. Got kind of tired towards the end of the radiation treatments and fuzzy brained.

Started on Letrozole. No real side effects…joints a little more creaky is all.

Mammogram one year out. No evidence of disease, we seem to have beat this cancer.

Now it feels like I never even had cancer, it was just a bump in the road.

I hope your path will be as easy as mine was and I hope you have helpers, and I hope you come out of it with no evidence of disease at the end.

Sending lots of hugs. The Mayo message boards are pretty helpful, too.

🤗🤗🤗

iluvtennis

(20,962 posts)
34. So sorry to hear this. I know everyone is different, but my sister-in-law and a good friend both went thru
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:19 PM
Nov 21

treatment - chemo and surgery and they made it to remission. Sending positive healing vibes.

yourout

(8,154 posts)
35. Sending best wishes. Our daughter-in-law just...
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:20 PM
Nov 21

Had her surgery for it in October.
She had quite a year.
Gave birth to a son in January
And had her gallbladder out in February
Found out she had breast cancer in March
Did 6 months of aggressive chemo.
All the follow-up biopsies and lab work showed no signs of cancer so the chemo seems to have worked. But beware of the Red devil as they call it which is the last round of chemo which hit her the hardest.
She does have the BRCA2 Gene from her father's side.

cally

(21,719 posts)
36. I know how scary that diagnosis is as
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:22 PM
Nov 21

You wait to find out more. I’m 18 years after breast cancer diagnosis and treatment.

:hugs:

1WorldHope

(953 posts)
37. That's an ice cold bucket of water over your head.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:22 PM
Nov 21

I've been there myself. I remember how angry and scared that I felt. My family doctor told me that someday I would look back and this will have just been a bump on the road. I remember being really angry when she said that to me. Now looking back 6 years, she was right. But, I was also lucky, so far. Take good care of yourself as you go through the treatment that you choose. I was unlucky while recovering from radiation I got bit by a mosquito who gave me west Nile virus. That was worse than the whole year of cancer treatment. Also my husband has had 3 different cancers, bladder, prostate and lung. He is still kicking with COPD. My point is that cancer isn't always immediately deadly these days. I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope you find doctors that you love!

barbtries

(30,013 posts)
39. I'm sorry to hear this.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:37 PM
Nov 21

Hope it's a quick and relatively painless path to good health for you. I believe your chance of beating it is extremely good.

Sun-Moon

(104 posts)
44. You are not alone
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:52 PM
Nov 21

Please do not be afraid to reach out to people and ask for help. Too many of us have been where you are now and you would be surprised at the love you will get back when you reach out.

Many gentle hugs and healing vibes being sent to you.

BigDemVoter

(4,556 posts)
45. As a healthcare provider, I can honestly tell you to try not to panic. I totally understand the
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:59 PM
Nov 21

fear, but breast cancer treatment is nothing like it used to be. They can do much, much more than even just a few years ago, and targeted treatments are available. Furthermore, the side effects of chemo (if you even need that) are much easier to deal with nowadays. My mom had breast cancer in the 1970s during the days when they just went for radical surgery and heavy duty chemo. I'm hoping things turn out well. I know you have a lot of people thinking about you here.

livetohike

(23,085 posts)
46. I'm so sorry that you received this news wryter2000z
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 06:59 PM
Nov 21

Sending hugs and holding positive thoughts for the best outcome as you start this journey. Please update when you know more.

virgdem

(2,218 posts)
52. I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis. Wishing you healing thoughts and prayers for succesful treatment.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 07:14 PM
Nov 21

biophile

(480 posts)
53. Trust in yourself to be strong and make good choices
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 07:19 PM
Nov 21

Trust in God, if that is your faith
The DU community is supportive - so glad you feel comfortable to hang out here!
Best of luck to you

Mike Nelson

(10,394 posts)
54. We're with you...
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 07:33 PM
Nov 21

... lifting your spirit! Be well and healthy, wryter2000. You're not alone.

dlk

(12,489 posts)
56. I'm so sorry for your disgnosis
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 07:44 PM
Nov 21

There are amazing new treatments available and I wish you all the best

babylonsister

(171,700 posts)
57. Love to you! Lots of us here are
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 08:22 PM
Nov 21

survivors of breast cancer. If you have any concerns, please ask. I had a mastectomy when I was 27 and a lumpectomy about 3 years ago at the tender age of 65. I have decided for any health scare, you still have to put one foot in front of the other and carry on, hope you like your doctors, and heed their advice.

There have been great advances, chin up and hugs!

58. We look forward to supporting you as you kick this thing.
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 08:56 PM
Nov 21

Healing is always better with friends lifting you up. Stay well!!

highplainsdem

(52,962 posts)
60. I'm so sorry. Prayers and healing vibes for you. It's a scary diagnosis, but treatments are so good now,
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 09:25 PM
Nov 21

and getting better every year. My sister beat breast cancer several years ago.

sillywabbit

(30 posts)
62. I'm recovering from a double mastectomy that I had a month ago
Thu Nov 21, 2024, 11:53 PM
Nov 21

after finding out I had level 1 ductal carcinoma in situ. That's probably the best kind of breast cancer to have but I decided to have both breasts removed because of my family history of breast cancer (but we don't have the genes according to the genetic testing). I decided on a double mastectomy to avoid any further reoccurrences or other therapies, including radiation, chemo, or endocrine. I'm so glad I did because the biopsy showed that although my other breast didn't have any malignancies, it did have abnormalities that could turn into DCIS. I'm flat chested now, but I don't mind. And I never have to have another mammogram or needle biopsy or any of the additional therapies. I'm 74; I may not have made that decision when I was younger. But for what it's worth, I'm happy with my decision now. I hope your outcome is as good mine. Wishing you good luck!

wryter2000

(47,638 posts)
63. I'm fine with removing one or both breast
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 12:16 AM
Nov 22

Frankly, this one hurts so much I’m more than happy to have it removed.

I’m 76, btw. I stopped looking for love long ago.

wryter2000

(47,638 posts)
64. Everyone has been so wonderful
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 12:18 AM
Nov 22

I can’t possibly respond to everyone. I will hang out here and provide support to others.

kkmarie

(14 posts)
81. Please listen to the nurse navigator
Mon Dec 2, 2024, 05:34 AM
Dec 2

In 2017 I had a lumpectomy. Grade 1 ER+ HER -
I had no clue what to do or expect. I know now that no treatment plan should be made until a ONCOtype DX TEST this determines treatment.

I found that my nurse navigator was the best one for advice and instruction and breast cancer articles from the UK.

Hugs and hope

murielm99

(31,551 posts)
66. We are here for you.
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 02:37 AM
Nov 22

Keep us informed. We will keep you in our prayers. There are amazingly effective treatments these days.

AKwannabe

(6,452 posts)
67. My mom and hers both diagnosed
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 05:41 AM
Nov 22

Have had my scare already.
Gma passed away but not from breast cancer. Mom is still here some 12 yrs later.

You got this and we got your back.
Hang in there. And here!

💃🥰

Highway61

(2,573 posts)
69. I walked in your shoes
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 07:56 AM
Nov 22

Happened to me two years ago. Today I am good, cancer free, on meds and and tested every six months. I will be a big support to you if you want me to. You WILL get through this! I promise.

lark

(24,384 posts)
70. I had breast cancer in 2 spots, not related, in 1999.
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 08:40 AM
Nov 22

This was in 1 breast, the other was filled with grade 1 hyperplasia which would turn into cancer. It was in stage 1 on the worst side, so caught it super early. I had a bilateral mastectomy with no radiation or chemo and it's never recurred. Hope you can say that too years from now!!a

Javaman

(63,210 posts)
71. you can beat this.
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 09:38 AM
Nov 22

I'm assuming it's been caught early.

I come from a family of survivors. Mom, Aunt, both sisters.

all survived.

Cheers!

Phoenix61

(17,735 posts)
72. Best advice I got was, "This is not an emergency".
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 09:55 AM
Nov 22

It’s not a heart attack or stroke where time is of the essence. You have time to pick and choose the doctors/hospitals/treatment centers you want to work with. Don’t let anyone bully you into making a decision you aren’t ready to make.

maspaha

(413 posts)
73. I have been where you are...
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 10:01 AM
Nov 22

…almost 15 years ago. The tumor was 4.5cm, multi focal with lymph node invasion. My daughter was only 10 years old. Then I had the PET scan that showed abnormal uptake in a spot on my liver. It turned out to be an “incidental finding”, however, I was treated as metastatic Stage 4 for my first two cycles of chemotherapy. I went on to finish chemo, bilateral mastectomies, radiation, bilateral DIEP reconstruction, one year of Herceptin, and 10 years of estrogen blockers. Very scary times!

But, I saw my kid graduate high school and college! She is thriving! And I can honestly say, so am I! This summer I started working to get my pilot’s license back. I feel better than I did before diagnosis.

Treatments are better now than 15 years ago and you have more options! You can do this! We will be here with you!

Fla Dem

(25,926 posts)
74. Pulling for you wryter2000. Positive thoughts for a complete and uncomplicated recovery.
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 10:02 AM
Nov 22

Please keep us posted.

sdfernando

(5,455 posts)
78. So sorry to hear this news
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 01:29 PM
Nov 22

Sending good thoughts and rooting for the best of all possible outcome for you.

Tweedy

(1,231 posts)
80. Get a good doc you trust
Fri Nov 22, 2024, 04:02 PM
Nov 22

If you don’t already have one. Make sure your insurance plan is up to snuff, including a prescription drug plan. Do some things you love and some things that relax you while you wait for next steps.

Hugging you across the distance.

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