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N.J. man says he was almost kicked off plane after flight attendant found shirt offensive
By Andrew Ramos
July 12, 2026 / 11:30 PM EDT / CBS New York
A New Jersey man says his t-shirt nearly got him kicked off a United Airlines flight. ... Sam Saadeh, of Linden, was on a flight traveling from Atlanta to Newark Liberty International Airport on June 4 while wearing a t-shirt that said, "Bombing kids is not self defense." ... Saadeh, who is of Palestinian descent, said the t-shirt holds a deeper meaning and advocates for children. ... According to a recent United Nations report, more than 20,000 children have been killed in Gaza by Israel in what have been described as targeted attacks. The Israeli government has rejected the report and has denied deliberately targeting civilians.
"Change your shirt or you can't get on this flight"
Saadeh told CBS News New York he was "very confused" when a supervisor pulled him off the plane just after boarding. ... "He was like, 'Hey, the flight attendant finds your shirt offensive,' and I was like, 'Why?'" Saadeh said. "He goes, 'Here are the choices. Either you change your shirt or you can't get on this flight.'"
A New Jersey man was on a flight traveling from Atlanta to Newark on June 4, 2026, while wearing a t-shirt that said, "Bombing kids is not self defense."
CBS News New York
Both upset and humiliated, Saadeh says he opted to change, but claims he couldn't get specific answers, even when he landed in Newark, where he spoke to airline personnel. ... "She kept saying, like, 'You could see how the shirt is offensive.' I was like, 'I can't see how the shirt is offensive,'" Saadeh said. "She was like, 'It's 2026.' I was like, 'I know what year it is.'" ... He added, " 'Do you think kids shouldn't be bombed, or kids should be bombed? Like, what are you offended by?'"
Flier files complaint with DOT
A United spokesperson said in a statement to CBS News New York, "This customer flew as scheduled after changing his shirt." ... As per the airline's rules posted on its website, United has the right to deny transport to passengers who are "not properly clothed, or whose clothing is lewd, obscene or offensive." ... Saadeh said he is consulting with lawyers.
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RockCreek
(1,677 posts)lower the threshold for taking offense?
(semi-rhetorical question)
3catwoman3
(30,395 posts)And we only get one guess.
littlemissmartypants
(36,049 posts)badhair77
(5,264 posts)Im against bombing kids.
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)And remind me I supported bombing kids?"
yardwork
(70,305 posts)The airline staff?
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)Why else would you be offended by a true statement?
yardwork
(70,305 posts)There's nothing in the linked story that indicates this is anything more than an airline enforcing a policy they've had for more than fifty years.
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)One relating to "lewd, offensive etc attire" - the one United is using here- and the much more serious one relating to safety such as SAYING the word bomb and causing a panic. The latter will get you kicked off a oplane, which he wasn't btw and even land you in jail.
Now why would you do that?
So again, what is "offensive" as the flight attendance claimed, about a true statement and why?
yardwork
(70,305 posts)I'm not seeing anything in the linked story that says there are two separate policies, or that this was in any way a political or social decision left to the discretion of the airline staff.
If there's more information I will be glad to read it.
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)A little research might have been in order first.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)I'll be happy to read any info you would like to post.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)I'll be happy to read any info you would like to post.
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)Absurdity is. For lack of a better word or one that was not "offensive".
Edited to add:
It should be pretty clear that a purported dress code offense is distinct and separate from the far more serious safety/security offense - without having to do "research". But that's just me.
SpankMe
(3,834 posts)Rather, it's a question of degree. The point of the gripe here is...what constitutes "not properly clothed, or...clothing [that is] is lewd, obscene or offensive"? Why should a shirt protesting the bombing of children be offensive enough to threaten getting a guy bumped?
I fly Southwest a lot, and on one flight I saw a t-shirt with a picture of Mickey Mouse giving the middle finger. I also saw one years ago that said "I second that" with a sillouette of an AK-47 type rifle (a pro-second amendment shirt). In spite of the profane Mickey gesture and image of a gun, the airline didn't tell the passengers to hide or change their shirts.
So, it looks like the airline in this case is cloaking a political objection by justifying it with a vague policy.
TBF
(37,853 posts)- and most of us agree it's not offensive. I hope he sues.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)I've known since I was a child that any little thing can get one thrown off a plane. This was drummed into me at an early age. It's been even worse since 9/11.
I don't think anybody here on DU misunderstands the meaning of the message on the shirt. I don't think any of us find it offensive.
However, airlines don't play. They don't bother to decipher meanings or try to discern intent. They are literal. Try to get on a plane with a tee shirt that says "bombing kids" and you might be asked to deplane. And that policy is not going to be consistently enforced. It is up to the staff on the particular flight. And no, you might not get a clear explanation.
This is the way it's been since commercial flights began. You may think it's unfair. You may think it's unreasonable. I've experienced plenty of unreasonable inconveniences on flights.
Also note: Joe Biden's administration imposed penalties on airlines that leave passengers stranded. Trump lifted those penalties. Thanks to Trump, airlines have more power over their passengers than ever.
PSA: if you want to use a commercial airline to travel, follow all their rules and don't draw attention to yourself. It's ridiculously easy to get in trouble with an airline and end up losing the privilege to fly.
TBF
(37,853 posts)I mean, I have no idea why you feel the need to defend this ridiculous status quo but whatever
yardwork
(70,305 posts)I'm pointing out that this person's attempt at performative activism is unlikely to win a lawsuit.
And I'm stressing to any reader confused about this that it's way easy to get thrown off a plane.
I put this in the category of people throwing tomato soup on paintings in art galleries to "draw attention to" climate change.
TBF
(37,853 posts)but you do you.
Biophilic
(6,853 posts)What kind of people are you hiring? Someone who thinks its offensive to say no to bombing children? Your PR people need to rethink this. I find Uniteds actions very offensive.
littlemissmartypants
(36,049 posts)BaronChocula
(5,087 posts)"I'll be informing my attorney your FA who disagrees with this message on my shirt had the airline force me to change my clothes. We could either chalk this up to a misunderstanding right now or I'll see you in court." And I would have had to hold my tongue from adding "asshole."
yardwork
(70,305 posts)He's fortunate that he was not kicked off. I'm not sure why he's making such a big deal since it ended in his favor. Sounds performative to me.
Even back in the 1970s it was understood that any reference to a bomb, no matter how joking or whatever the context, would get you kicked off or not allowed to board a plane.
I doubt very much that the airline staff noticed or cared about the meaning of his message.
mahatmakanejeeves
(71,882 posts)yardwork
(70,305 posts)whathehell
(30,598 posts)when he repeatedly asked what the problem was.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)From the article at link:
As per the airline's rules posted on its website, United has the right to deny transport to passengers who are "not properly clothed, or whose clothing is lewd, obscene or offensive."
Also, I have known since the very first time I flew (in the 1960s) that references to bombs will get you kicked off a plane and possibly arrested.
This is not a new policy.
whathehell
(30,598 posts)he didn't know that "being against bombing children was 'offensive' to anyone".
Along with most I'd guess, he didn't know there was a broad based, context free, ban on the word "bomb" on a shirt.
I didn't know it either, and have also been flying since the 1960's.
In any case, I can't think of a reason the attendant couldn't just inform the passenger of the policy and get on with it.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)The passenger was asked to change his shirt, he complied, and he was reboarded with no issue.
I have been aware of the airlines' policy regarding the word "bomb" - no matter the context - since the 1960s. It's something my mom taught me them because she knew somebody who joked about a bomb and was kicked off a flight.
hlthe2b
(115,493 posts)Arbitrary and capricious to try to enforce a rule that is based on words only, sans context. See my post below (#49).
And tell the manufacturer of this candy that its mere presence in the hands of a passenger equates to a threat, and the candy is thus outlawed. Because that is your suggestion. Fortunately, common sense prevails in most settings.

whathehell
(30,598 posts)and it describes several instances of the passenger asking "why" and getting no answer to his question. Being told he could remove the shirt and stay on the plane or leave it on and be removed, was not an answer, it was an ultimatum.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)I didn't "report" on the article. I read it and quoted two paragraphs.
The article linked in the OP is the extent of my knowledge about this incident.
whathehell
(30,598 posts)I did respond to the wrong post..My bad.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)whathehell
(30,598 posts)whathehell
(30,598 posts)I did respond to the wrong post..My bad.
hlthe2b
(115,493 posts)A t-shirt with a cherry-bomb logo and ad (offensive?
A teen on a t-shirt inviting all to "come and get bombed" or to "get destroyed" with a liquor logo?
How about other related terms suggesting guns, not bombs:
Hotshot candy logo and lettering?
A shirt that states the US Men's Soccer team will have another "shot" at it in 2030?
A picture of high-powered water guns and kids
A cute dog whose food was changed to an inferior new brand labeled "kill me, just kill me now"
This stuff gets silly. The threat from using the word "bomb" is not that hard to distinguish from its nonthreatening use. But, even if they made a rule that the use of this term can never be used, given there are so many synonyms for threatening equipment, acts, and outcomes, the rule quickly becomes ARBITRARY and CAPRICIOUS. Just as SS has to sort actual threats to an elected official or other individual from the INTENT and ABILITY to do so. A word on a t-shirt just doesn't do it. A note dropped suggesting a bomb was on board--yeah, you bet that would do it.
Context matters (even if common sense seems in short supply)...
whathehell
(30,598 posts)and even if this is their policy, I can't imagine why she couldn't just give him a brief explanation of it.
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)Very nice.
hlthe2b
(115,493 posts)yardwork
(70,305 posts)In what way was he harmed?
hlthe2b
(115,493 posts)--Given it was done before a throng of passengers. The harm includes the arbitrary nature of the "rule."
Wait and see, yardwork. A good lawyer will get a settlement because the public sees this as both arbitrary and capricious.
R0ckyRac00n
(125 posts)-this. How is that hard to see?
ShazzieB
(23,163 posts)I didn't know there was a longstanding policy regarding the use of the word "bomb" in an airport or on a plane, but I'm not at all surprised that there is such a policy. It makes perfect sense to me.
When I saw the picture of the shirt, my first thought was that it would be in poor taste to wear a shirt on an airplane that referenced bombs or bombing in any way. You don't have to read it as a threat to bomb the plane or know that the word "bomb" is verboten on planes and in airports to realize that there was a good chance of it makng someone uneasy. Just getting on a plane makes some people uneasy, so why take a chance on adding to what is already a tense situation for many?
I would imagine that flight attendants are well versed in the sorts of things that have the potential to cause problems, and they're probably trained to err on the side of caution. I see nothing wrong with that. A lot of people think of them as glorified waitresses and waiters, but one of their chief responsibilities is passenger safety, and a big part of that is keeping passengers calm and relaxed.
As for the written policy, I think the word "offensive" was chosen for a reason, as it can mean a whole lot of different things, thereby giving airline personnel the leeway to make a judgment to make judgment calls like this one. Merriam-Webster lists several definitions for the word, including "giving painful or unpleasant sensations" and "causing displeasure or resentment." What's offensive is always going to be a judgment call, and it makes sense to me that flight attendants are allowed to make such judgments. A policy that's too narrow and specific could hamper them in doing their jobs.
I love the First Amendment as much as anyone, but there have to be limitations in certain situations, and flying on a plane is one of those situations. (The old adage about yelling "Fire!" in a crowded theater comes to mind.) As much as people take airline travel as a matter of course in this day and age, being packed into what amounts to a sardine can and transported high about the earth for hours at a time is in many ways a very unnatural situation, and it seems reasonable to me that those who are entrusted with the welfare and safety of all involved should be enabled to make decisions like this one, whether everyone else agrees with them or not.
Cirsium
(4,330 posts)"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances."
Skittles
(174,008 posts)I mean, seriously, WTF
The Wizard
(14,002 posts)Damages for missing a flight shouldn't be excessive unless he can prove he missed the last precious minutes with a dead or dying next of kin.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)Edit: No indication he missed his flight.
From the article:
As per the airline's rules posted on its website, United has the right to deny transport to passengers who are "not properly clothed, or whose clothing is lewd, obscene or offensive."
intheflow
(30,328 posts)you're kicked off. So if I wore a shirt that said Jesus didn't die for anyone's sins, I could be kicked off? The telling part is when he asked the United staff if they supported bombing kids, and they couldn't answer him. His choices were missing his flight (which, as we know, is costly, and I doubt United would have given him a seat in their next flight) because some RW nutjob got offended or change his shirt? It's bullshit. They picked on him because he is brown and had the word bomb on his shirt, ignoring the underlying message of peace. I think the flight attendant was a racist MAGA.
QueerDuck
(2,518 posts)Even as a political statement on a t-shirt. I think it's safe to say there's a strong likelihood that he was deliberately being provocative in the hopes of making headlines. He knew what he was doing, I believe.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)1. Dons a provocative tee shirt that includes the words "bombing children."
2. Tries to board an airplane.
3. Gets told he has to cover up the shirt before he can board.
4. Complies, and is boarded.
5. After the flight, makes a big deal, runs to the media, and threatens legal action.
Note that he was not arrested, not roughed up, not handed over to ICE, not taken away for questioning.
In fact, the entire scenario would have played out exactly the same way in 1975.
Performance fail.
displacedvermoter
(5,315 posts)Significant numbers of airline personnel might not have found his shirt provocative, so his chances of making headlines might have "bombed" so to speak.
If it had said "I'm a Sex Bomb" or had he been wearing a Runaways shirt that said "Cherry Bomb" on it, would that have been provocative?
QueerDuck
(2,518 posts)I don't know how much clearer I can be. That's just something you don't do, say, talk about, joke about, mention. Not even in passing. Not even in any way that it could be "mis-heard" or "mis-understood" or "mis-interpreted" or "mis-seen" or "mis-read".
He got the attention he was seeking. He's no victim.
displacedvermoter
(5,315 posts)You are pretty clear
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)The whole point of that policy making SAYING - as in verbally - the word "bomb" a CRIME is that, upon hearing it, it might cause panic among passengers and endanger plane safety.
How would his T-shirt endanger safety? Would people be stampeding away in horror and panic upon reading his T-shirt? Please.
Even the Airline itself didn't make that argument or use that policy. Yet here we see it on DU.
The fact that one flight attendant was "offended" by the truth is a sad reflection of the lengths some will go to to not have to face it.
QueerDuck
(2,518 posts)Reasonable people understand that flight crews don't invent these policies on the spot. They are trained to enforce strict airline protocols and FAA guidelines regarding cabin safety and passenger conduct.
Ultimately, a flight attendant is an employee executing company policy to ensure a smooth flight. It's unrealistic to expect them to risk their own job or tolerate potential cabin friction just to accommodate a passenger's choice of attire.
The only "sad reflection" here is the great lengths some folks will go to by characterizing policy enforcement as simply a matter of being "personally offended."
A person's First Amendment right does not override corporate safety and conduct policies on a commercial airliner. I think common sense dictates that an employee shouldn't be vilified for doing exactly what their employer trains them to do.
Let's talk about that straw man I saw back there! Claiming that a piece of clothing is perfectly fine just because it doesn't cause a literal "stampede in horror and panic" sets an absurdly low bar for cabin safety.
Cabin safety isn't just about preventing mass hysteria... it's about preventing the localized friction, political arguments, and escalating verbal altercations that can easily derail a flight inside a cramped tube at 35,000 feet.
Splitting hairs with regard to "verbally saying" a word versus "silently wearing it on a shirt" misses the foundational legal reality: commercial flights are not public forums. It's a weak argument.
Sure... the text on a shirt isn't the exact same thing as shouting a threat... however, the flight crew's job is to ensure a calm, safe environment for everyone on board. The airline's private corporate policies grant them the authority to make those calls on the spot.
He FA'd and he FO... just as he wanted to. His 15 minutes of fame are now over.
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)Other examples of dress code violations are lewd, obscene messages, bare feet, revealing clothing etc. Nothing to do with safety but rather subjective, personal standards - meeting societal expectations of proper and acceptable attire.
The flight attendant found the message personally offensive, as he/she might a low-worn tank top or a "GFY" T-shirt.
The FA did not invoke the security/safety rule pertaining to "bombs" that you started your argument with.
And let's get back to what is being claimed: "The flight attendant found your shirt offensive".
That's the point where your argument falls short.
So again, what did the FA find to be personally "offensive" about that T-Shirt? It's not hard to draw the right conclusion about why it "offended" him/her.
QueerDuck
(2,518 posts)"The FA did not invoke the security/safety rule pertaining to "bombs" that you started your argument with." --- A smart move on their part... considering how litigious and hair-splitting people can be, this was a position that would be easier to defend and justify. Flight attendants and gate crew use subjective judgement all day long: is a passenger too drunk? are their clothes too revealing? do they smell offensive? --- In this case, I think they did the right thing, they made a call, they told the passenger what to do, and he complied. Perfect ending.
AloeVera
(4,790 posts)That the words "Bombing kids is not self-defense" was "offensive".
Exactly. And the underlying reason why - my question you ignored - will win the passenger the case in court.
QueerDuck
(2,518 posts)... do as you're told. There is no "court case" ... and if they try, they will lose. Passengers must comply and he did. He was not denied a flight. His feelings were hurt. He felt entitled. Give up.
Bayard
(30,908 posts)And I promise not to wear it on a plane.
hlthe2b
(115,493 posts)who do.
To voice via a written t-shirt that "bombing kids is not self-defense" applies just as readily to the US bombing the Iranian school children, killing at least 150. Is that antisemitic or OTHERWISE OFFENSIVE?
But, if applied to Israel (which the t-shirt never mentions): IDF and Bibi's tactics went way too far after October 7, 2023. The first responses over the early weeks/months could legitimately be said to be retaliation justified after Hamas' horrorstorm, albeit collateral casualties to civilians should have been more closely controlled/avoided. But after that. Well, anyone who wants to maintain that ALL of the civilian deaths were due to Hamas using them as human shields is not convincing anyone, IMHO. Some, sure. But, at some point, it has become apparent that IDF just didn't give a "GODDAMN"... Yes, I said it. That is not antisemitism any more than severely criticizing Hegseth's idiocy and Trump's sadistic decisions to bomb bomb bomb anything in Iran without thorough evaluation--even if the civilian population could be devastated-- is traitorous to criticize (as dedicated MAGATs would claim).
I hope United is overwhelmed with backlash. This is ridiculous. (as is those who want to claim the context for the word "bomb" does not matter and that that automatically becomes grounds to remove the passenger when zero threat level is present and the word is in no way directed as such. I like the lawyer's odds for that passenger in a civil suit).
yardwork
(70,305 posts)hlthe2b
(115,493 posts)But, in the wider context of all that is happening now, other similar incidents certainly were for that reason. If you deny that, you haven't been watching or reading all that is going on.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)I agree that jumping to conclusions is never a good idea.
ToxMarz
(3,247 posts)He should have offered to cover the word "not" for her.
TheRickles
(3,586 posts)relogic
(426 posts)Take out the wording (bombs, bombing) substitute on the shirt advocacy for extreme, general due diligence in US warfare or remembrance of innocents killed in recent campaigns (wars of choice).
For example: on the shirt:
Were not collateral damage. Victims of Shajareh Tayyebeh Elementary School in Minab
I suspect the offense is not the particular word used on that shirt. Its more likely the airline doesnt want legal headaches from this regime because they allowed tolerance for criticism against this and all other bombing campaigns.
yardwork
(70,305 posts)relogic
(426 posts)What is extraordinarily unlikely?
yardwork
(70,305 posts)relogic
(426 posts)you dont think that in light of trump/hegsbreath/military priveledge and the latitude given to US conflicts since our founding that airlines, tv networks, universities, law firms, etc. are not intimidated in their free speech. Go back just 19 months for a refresher course.
You might start with the speech of people on shirts and general peaceful protests since 911. Try this:
If the shirt proclaimed adulation of America as the peacemaker in Israel and Palestine and Im a flight attendant offended by this ridiculous trump meme, would my being offended carry similar weight?
yardwork
(70,305 posts)However, I find it to be very unlikely that the airline staff on the plane singled out this passenger for any other reason than his shirt said "bombing children."
I doubt they understood what it meant. I doubt they thought, "Gosh, we'd better make an example of him or else the Trump administration might go after United Airlines for allowing this pro-Palestinian protest."
That's the kind of thing the CEO or corporate lawyers might think about. I'd be willing to bet all my crypto currency that the staff on the plane thought something along the lines of "Dammit the guy in seat 21B has a shirt that says "bombing children" now were probably going to have a delayed flight or something worse. Betty, go see if he'll cover it up."
Never underestimate (1) the juggernaut that is "corporate policy," and (2) the level of disinterest average people have in our protests. Most people don't care. They're at work, they have a job to do.
Most of us could write a book about the stupidity and aggravation we've encountered while flying. Especially since 9/11.
relogic
(426 posts)the political/corporate astuteness of the preemptive necessity imposed on any underlings-particularly a flight attendant whos read up on (see my earlier reference to Trumps 19 months of fascism). In short-play it safe and neutralize speech addressing obvious obliteration of children (collateral damage).
I believe after reading your comments on intuitive, underling corporate employee vs. corporate lawyer hierarchy you might convince some of the opposite of your stance.. Sure, the Trump administration is nuts and authoritarian Exactly why some enjoy that brand of fascism whose thousands also happen to be working on a corporate plane, corporate industry all on board for repuke, authoritarian nuts and enablers.
If delving into the dutiful, obedient minds of company workers, I would not bet any of my hard earned currency against their loyalty or their overly cautious actions in such current speech on planes or otherwise.😀🌻
Try switching the scripts to pro-war, authoritarian, conservative speak since the JFK era and recognize the tolerance that permeates these forums as opposed to what is considered liberal, left wing positions on t-shirts, tv pundit discussions, etc., etc. The safer positions has always been conservative, right leaning.
Cry for noble war on a plane, some offensiveness. Cry for peace sans violence as a hope for mankind and theyll snatch your parachute before youre thrown off the plane.🤝
Skittles
(174,008 posts)no one wants to see any variation of the word BOMB at the airport or on a plane
no_hypocrisy
(55,916 posts)yardwork
(70,305 posts)Soul_of_Wit
(228 posts)A man wearing a T-shirt advertising his bar "Crash Landing" was also asked to change the shirt or cover it up.
Joinfortmill
(22,074 posts)twodogsbarking
(20,085 posts)chouchou
(3,490 posts)..and the flight crew ignore it..
OC375
(1,254 posts)Wonder if victim dude gets that?
BHDem53
(1,185 posts)displacedvermoter
(5,315 posts)Dethhogan
(3 posts)I plan on wearing my "SCREW HAMAS" shirt on my next flight.
Aussie105
(8,425 posts)Looks at the shirt, thinks . . . bomb kids? Who would do that? So offensive!
The whole message that this is indeed happening, and it is a bad thing, and the wearer is against that, well . . . whooosh! Straight over his/her head.
But maybe the reading analysis is a bit deeper?
Yes, it is happening, but . . . we are supposed to ignore it like it isn't happening, because (reasons) . . .so it is an anti-semitic T shirt!
Who knowns what stupidity lurks in the minds of others?
RainCaster
(13,965 posts)She needs to be fired.
maspaha
(757 posts)LearnedHand
(5,711 posts)Any other place sure. But passengers are already angry from the whole experience, the crew is right behind them, and no one has a sense of humor in that pressure cooker. Seems planes are good places to not extrovert your political positions, especially if it mentions bombing.