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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI am sad and nervous. I went to the Breast Cancer Center this afternoon for my six month check up for a lump in my right
breast. It is now a mass. Tech took results to the doctor. She came in and said that not only do I have the mass but now more are appearing. I scheduled a biopsy for June 5. I talked to my husband Rich and DU friend John. They both helped me. Rich is finishing his treatment for Malignant Prostate cancer. and came in the room when the Doctor came in. John and I talked and he really helped me.You guys are my family and I can't talked to my mother. She needs a ride for my sister to get her 6 month check up for her "cancer" She keeps telling me that my sister has cancer in her uterus , which she never had as it was a polyp. She was given a hysterectomy. But she has a stage 4 tumor in it. I so wish I could tell her that I am scared. I have told the stories of my youth to repeat again. You are my family. I hope now that I got that free. I can sleep better tonight. Love you all, Deb.❤️ I just needed someone to talk to.
hlthe2b
(114,743 posts)you have written means you can't get through this with ultimately good results. Breath deeply and don't let yourself dwell on the fears of the unknown. Yes, of course they are there, but move them way to the back of your mind and take everything as the most positive they can be. Every step is one toward resolution. Day by day. Positive thoughts will steer your mind and yes, be good for your body too!
Now go get some sleep knowing we are all going to be thinking of you with best healing thoughts!
debm55
(61,883 posts)calimary
(90,901 posts)Someones always here.
I believe it was our longtime-beloved Skittles who first made that observation. And its TRUE! ANY hour of day OR night. SOMEBODYS gonna be here to help you get through even the worst of times, thereby making sure you dont feel completely alone or abandoned. Inevitably.
Just one more reason why I love this place. Always here when and if you need it (and even when you dont!).
debm55
(61,883 posts)Deuxcents
(27,761 posts)How old you are so this could be any one of a few things but we always think the worst. My issue was fibroids and they can be very similar to the touch but only tests can be sure and the earlier the better. Dont worry about any one elses problems, appointments or issues..this is about YOU and only YOU. Let us know your journey to good health and keep positive and deep breaths. 🌺
debm55
(61,883 posts)Diamond_Dog
(41,167 posts)I have been in your shoes and I can just imagine how youre feeling.
My oncologist always tells me that medical science improves so fast even in the last 5 years there are new treatments, drugs, that werent around before. And, if you have to have surgery, you have to have it. Its not the end of the world. I have been through it! And that was 19 years ago and Im still here! You will be okay. I will send you good thoughts and strength to deal. Heres a hug
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buzzycrumbhunger
(2,189 posts)Youve been monitored to keep an eye out for this. This is nothing like winding up in the hospital because something horrible happened and they discovered something thats been growing for years and is too major to deal with. Theyll obviously want to get it out, theyll probably put you on tamoxifen or something, and youll cope.
Youre not alone, obviouslylook at the people here rushing to comfort you! Just stay positive and expect the best. Ive worked in healthcare for a couple decades and have seen far more successes than failures.
Getting in line for the hugs. Youve got this!
debm55
(61,883 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)Marie Marie
(11,556 posts)Until and after, you know how we are all here for you to talk, scream or cry to. We never close and we care.
debm55
(61,883 posts)niyad
(134,113 posts)Your DU family is here for you, so lean as hard as you need.
debm55
(61,883 posts)surfered
(14,393 posts)from cancer.
Listen to your doctors. Stay strong.
🙏
debm55
(61,883 posts)spooky3
(38,891 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)MLAA
(19,809 posts)🩷💕🩷💕🩷
debm55
(61,883 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)KitFox
(599 posts)lane traveling to all of us, that there is no way in the world that someone with your heart and soul wont beat the ever lovin hell out of this! We love you and are sending truckloads of healing and caring energy to you, dear heart. Pop on and reach out any hour of the day or night and we will hear you. Please keep us posted. We care so so much🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
debm55
(61,883 posts)Ninga
(9,036 posts)and that your prognosis is hopeful. Holding good thoughts and prayers for you and your medical team. Sending a bushel full of hugs.
debm55
(61,883 posts)sueh
(1,975 posts)as you go through this. Scary, I know from experience.Everybody here has your back. We love you, Deb.
debm55
(61,883 posts)hamsterjill
(17,777 posts)Seems a lot is going on with you and your husband. I can imagine that you are overwhelmed. Talking about it can most times put things into a better perspective.
It would be unnatural NOT to be frightened by this. But it was mentioned up thread that staying positive is actually good medicine. I'm a firm believer in that. Easier said than done, right? Well, yes. But it's something that we all need to work on and learn to do better. So, I hope that you will take this time between now and your biopsy to surround yourself with love and care and stories of women with positive outcomes. I hope you have confidence in your doctors and know that they are there to help you and create the best outcome for you.
I will be praying for you, as is my personal practice. As has been said here already several times, you come here and talk any time you feel the need. Come here and feel some DU love.
Deb, I wish you calm and peace and a good night's sleep, and I want a long-term positive outcome for you! Take care of yourself and keep us updated.
debm55
(61,883 posts)irisblue
(37,960 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)alwaysinasnit
(5,654 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)❤️❤️
ColoringFool
(1,135 posts)Diggory isn't a real dog, but he gives me a sense of that calm and peace when I am ill and fearful, as I live alone.
🙏
calimary
(90,901 posts)Your imagination can REALLY help, in the coping department. Ive found the wisdom and kindness and the company you can enjoy here are SUPER helpful when you need moral support - for ANY reason.
Btw, glad youre here, too!
debm55
(61,883 posts)Figarosmom
(13,576 posts)Don't let it affect you spirit. Stay positive. Enjoy each moment you can. And for goodness sakes don't jump right to the worst possible outcome in your mind before you even know what you are dealing with.
debm55
(61,883 posts)JMCKUSICK
(6,642 posts)You won't have to take another step alone.
debm55
(61,883 posts)summer_in_TX
(4,286 posts)Holding you and Rich both in my prayers. 🙏
debm55
(61,883 posts)msongs
(74,244 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)sheshe2
(98,528 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)stage left
(3,355 posts)and warm hugs. J
debm55
(61,883 posts)Hope22
(4,899 posts)Love and healing thoughts go out to you. 💗💐💗🙏🏼🥰
debm55
(61,883 posts)Permanut
(8,589 posts)We happen to know that you can handle any challenge that is put in front of you.
And just for the record, my wife is a 15 year survivor of breast cancer, free and clear. That's just one survivor story, but there are a lot stories like hers.
debm55
(61,883 posts)DET
(2,609 posts)Deb, I know that its going to be hard waiting for the biopsy and your mind will go to some really scary places. I have to think that your doctor would have expedited the biopsy if they were seriously concerned. I was told in my twenties that I had a breast mole that had all the signs of cancer and was given a biopsy that same day. Turned out to be nothing.
Youre still coping with your husbands advanced PC, but by now you know that even stage 4 PC is manageable if not curable. I used to completely freak out waiting for the results of my husbands every three months tests, especially if the results were late. After six years, Ive learned to calm down and anticipate good results.
Its completely normal to be nervous at this point, but it helps to find enjoyable distractions that take your mind off of things until you have some definitive answers. Maybe indulge in some things or activities that you normally wouldnt. I wish you the best and please keep us informed.
debm55
(61,883 posts)LoisB
(13,539 posts)through this trial. We are all here for you.
debm55
(61,883 posts)MIButterfly
(3,173 posts)I am holding you in my heart and in my thoughts. Please know that your DU family, myself included, is here for you any time, day or night. Lean on us as much as you want. We've got your back, always! You bring so much joy with your posts. I look forward to your "polls" (or should I say questions? Sorry, I don't know what to call them; it's late) and smile every time I see a new one!
I hope your biopsy turns out to be nothing serious. If it is something, we'll all be behind you, come what may. You are loved and cherished here. Please don't ever forget it. You will never be alone as long as you have us!
Much love,
MIButterfly
debm55
(61,883 posts)murielm99
(33,097 posts)Cancer sucks. No matter what form it takes, it sucks.
I am glad you came here to get the support of your DU family. Like the others, I will be here for you.
debm55
(61,883 posts)Buddyzbuddy
(2,929 posts)I wish you and Rich well.
debm55
(61,883 posts)livetohike
(24,440 posts)diagnosis is, know that we are here to listen , comfort you or celebrate positive news.
I had a breast cancer scare a few months ago and the diagnosis was something benign that I never heard of! We are nearly the same age. It is amazing what things can appear now.
debm55
(61,883 posts)zanana1
(6,537 posts)I know this because I've been following your postings. I'll say a prayer for you on June 5. I hope you have what I have. I've had lumps in my breasts for years. Harmless. Your family is here for you.
debm55
(61,883 posts)TBF
(37,275 posts)my grandmother had breast cancer, but they were able to treat that. It was the damage to her heart from polio when she was young that was the real problem. Still scary, but there are treatments and we will be there with you! Thank you for sharing it with us, it makes things easier to carry if you let others in.
debm55
(61,883 posts)me❤️
TygrBright
(21,396 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)❤️
NNadir
(38,590 posts)It was terrifying at the time, but she got by with a lumpectomy, radiation, a SERM type drug, and regular monitoring.
There is hope.
I saw her last week. She's fine.
Hang in there. All of us at DU wish our friend a successful outcome.
debm55
(61,883 posts)Fla Dem
(27,792 posts)I am glad you have each other.
debm55
(61,883 posts)lucca18
(1,471 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)Dear_Prudence
(1,196 posts)For you and Rich. Say "yes" to self-care and sharing with Rich. When folks make demands on you or try to burden you with their expectations, remember that "No" is a complete sentence. You are in my heart, debm55.
debm55
(61,883 posts)PittBlue
(4,834 posts)You have a good support system here. All the best to you I hope you are dealing with UPMC.
debm55
(61,883 posts)pdxflyboy
(949 posts)My love and healing thoughts to you.
Sincerely,
pdxflyboy
debm55
(61,883 posts)Niagara
(12,160 posts)I can understand how frightened you are.
Please be kind to yourself. Your DU family is here for you.
I'm sending you love and positive vibrations your way, Debbie. ❤️
debm55
(61,883 posts)IA8IT
(6,459 posts)A few have had surgery after testing positive others increase testing frequency.
BRCA gene test looks for DNA changes that increase the risk of breast cancer and ovarian cancer
https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/brca-gene-test/about/pac-20384815
The BRCA gene test looks for DNA changes that increase the risk of breast cancer and ovarian cancer. It uses a sample of blood or saliva to look for the changes.
DNA is the genetic material inside cells. It holds the instructions, called genes, that tell cells what to do. Harmful changes in the genes can increase the risk of cancer. Healthcare professionals sometimes call these gene changes variants or mutations.
The BRCA gene test looks for changes in the BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes. Other genes also can increase the risk of breast and ovarian cancer. Some genetic tests look for these other genes in addition to the BRCA genes. A genetic test that looks at many different genes is called a multigene panel test.
A healthcare professional can help you decide whether genetic testing is right for you. The gene changes that increase the risk of breast and ovarian cancer are passed from parents to children. So the health professional considers your personal and family history of cancer when making a recommendation. Genetic testing isn't routinely done on people with an average risk of breast and ovarian cancer.
debm55
(61,883 posts)cancer.
Ocelot II
(131,305 posts)Take care of yourself, and done't hesitate to come here for support. We care about you!
debm55
(61,883 posts)Polly Hennessey
(8,981 posts)Trust yourself. Youve survived a lot, and you will survive this.
We are here for you, now and always. 💕👍
debm55
(61,883 posts)some_of_us_are_sane
(3,650 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)CTyankee
(68,511 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)sop
(19,399 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)LuvLoogie
(8,937 posts)to overcome and get through all the days ahead.
debm55
(61,883 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)BeneteauBum
(797 posts)Heres my bit of positivity that things will turn out well. Chin up young lady! Youll beat this!
Peace ☮️
debm55
(61,883 posts)TexasBushwhacker
(21,294 posts)checking up on it, so if it turns out to be cancer, you caught it early. Catching it early is your best defense.
debm55
(61,883 posts)for a loop to be told it was a mass. Thank you for your kind words, TexasBushwhacker.
TexasBushwhacker
(21,294 posts)She was diagnosed at age 60, with Stage 2 (lymph nodes). I asked when she had last had a mammogram and she said "5 years". She had a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation and was in remission for a couple of years
But then it came back in her bones, so I knew it was treatable, but not curable. She died 2 months before her 70th birthday. She had a sister who was 5 years older who made it to 96!
I can't help but wonder how long she would have lived if they caught it earlier. I'm 69 now and I've gotten my boobs smashed annually, without fail. I always expect them to find cancer and I had to have biopsies in both breasts in 2012. But so far, no cancer. Early detection is our best protection, but they have so many more treatment options than they did just 20 years ago. I still look at wigs every year though - LOL.
Trueblue Texan
(4,621 posts)Wishing you the best outcome and sending healing vibes and hoping you can manage to stay away from toxic family situations.
debm55
(61,883 posts)gab13by13
(32,826 posts)They cured my cancer and fixed my A-fib. Sending my positive vibes your way.
debm55
(61,883 posts)marble falls
(72,596 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)BlueWaveNeverEnd
(15,051 posts)debm55
(61,883 posts)DelMar dem
(77 posts)one step at a time. The waiting between the steps is the worst. Wishing you all the best as you move forward.
debm55
(61,883 posts)u4ic
(17,137 posts)It may or may not be cancer. If it is, know many women have recovered. You have lots of love and support, and that's crucial.
debm55
(61,883 posts)True Dough
(27,359 posts)you're a treasure.
Yes, we are your family. We're all pulling for you.
Take care.
❤️
debm55
(61,883 posts)malaise
(298,171 posts)and hugs. Hope you and yours get the best treatment possible.