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BlueKota

(4,403 posts)
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 12:11 PM Jul 12

Wish Me Luck

I am going to my 45 High-school Reunion tonight. I wasn't sure I wanted to go. I have been friends with one guy since we were five years old though, and he kept urging me to come. He was, along with 3 girls, the people I hung out with in high-school the most. All but 1 of the other girls are going. There are a few other pretty good friends coming too.

Plus one of the girls who I sat next to in homeroom because our names are alphabetically close, ended up in the same college so we became good friends there. She's going too. So I figured what the heck I will go.

The only thing is some of the people who I went to the abusive Catholic School with are going too, and they were snobs and use to pick on me a lot. My sister said likely they've changed as adults, and fuck them, if they still don't like me. My friend said he will take out anyone if they hurt my feelings,🤣, but still a little nervous. I am not a classy dresser, nice pants and a clean and pressed blouse are about it, and am overweight, but I make an effort to look at least ok. Hopefully that will be enough. 🙏. I am also not sure what to say because I don't work any more because of my severe depression and anxiety, so what do I say if asked about work? I really don't want to mention the depression, though, so I may just blame my bout with meningitis, and not being able to drive anymore, (which is true) or that I retired, but I am only 63. Not sure which. Any ideas appreciated?

Wish me luck. My friend is picking me up, but I will have my sister on standby in case I want to leave early.

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Wish Me Luck (Original Post) BlueKota Jul 12 OP
good luck. AllaN01Bear Jul 12 #1
Thank you! BlueKota Jul 12 #2
even though i had some good teachers iin hs. if u were in special ed or the gifted program, u were teased alot. AllaN01Bear Jul 12 #3
Just tell them you got to retire early, mwmisses4289 Jul 12 #4
Thank you! BlueKota Jul 12 #6
I understand. I have anxiety too. 🙏 Good luck 💙 TommieMommy Jul 12 #5
Thank you! BlueKota Jul 12 #7
Flip the question Bmoboy Jul 12 #8
Thank you! BlueKota Jul 12 #9
I hope you have the time of your life! NCgayguy Jul 12 #10
Thank you. BlueKota Jul 14 #15
You don't have to get specific about work. LuckyCharms Jul 12 #11
Thank you! BlueKota Jul 14 #16
When I attened my 30th and 50th reunions LogDog75 Jul 13 #12
Those are good answers. BlueKota Jul 14 #17
Just say you're retired Figarosmom Jul 13 #13
Thank you. BlueKota Jul 14 #18
Soooo, did you have a good time? Sure hope so. Fla Dem Jul 13 #14
Thank you. I will do an update post. BlueKota Jul 14 #19

AllaN01Bear

(26,525 posts)
1. good luck.
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 12:14 PM
Jul 12

never been to one of mine . have no way of getting there or where to stay. didnt like my hs years . college was ok.

BlueKota

(4,403 posts)
2. Thank you!
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 12:24 PM
Jul 12

Sorry you didn't like your HS years. I liked mine, but mostly because it wasn't like grade school, and the teachers were much kinder.

AllaN01Bear

(26,525 posts)
3. even though i had some good teachers iin hs. if u were in special ed or the gifted program, u were teased alot.
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 12:29 PM
Jul 12

same in middle school.. i like ur thougths on ignoring the bullies .

mwmisses4289

(1,564 posts)
4. Just tell them you got to retire early,
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 12:36 PM
Jul 12

and are enjoying not having to be on the clock. Besides, 62 is still considered mandatory retirement in some companies, yes?
I went to one high school reunion, haven't really been interested since. Mostly because my graduating class was over 700 people.

Bmoboy

(509 posts)
8. Flip the question
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 01:04 PM
Jul 12

"What have you been doing with yourself?"

"I'm doing fine, how about you?"

Any questions that make you uncomfortable, just turn them around and put the questioner on the spot.

NCgayguy

(253 posts)
10. I hope you have the time of your life!
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 08:05 PM
Jul 12

I hope the night is filled with laughter, smiles and giggles about the silly stuff. Just let go and have a ball. Anyone who doesn't appreciate your company doesn't deserve it; their loss.

Let us know how it went!

May You Be Healthy, Safe and Happy and LOVED!


LuckyCharms

(20,352 posts)
11. You don't have to get specific about work.
Sat Jul 12, 2025, 08:50 PM
Jul 12

"Oh, I had to stop working a bit early because of some health problems, but I'm taking good care of myself and life is good".

I know this response is probably a bit late, but you can use that line whenever anyone asks you questions about work.

If they get nosy and ask you what your health problems are, just say you would rather not talk about it.

LogDog75

(647 posts)
12. When I attened my 30th and 50th reunions
Sun Jul 13, 2025, 12:35 AM
Jul 13

I was the one asking questions of others and then listened to what they said and I tried to follow up with another question. Like most people, I didn't have a glamorous or exciting job but I did travel and got to live in Europe. When asked about what I've done I honestly tell them without embellishments. As to what I'm doing in retirement I simply say I've enjoying life on my terms doing what I want and when I want. BTW, I retired 22 years ago at age 53 and when they ask why I just tell them it felt like the right time. No further explanation needed.

Figarosmom

(7,017 posts)
13. Just say you're retired
Sun Jul 13, 2025, 01:07 AM
Jul 13

Many people wish they could retire early and they will say how lucky you are.
Let us know how it went😊

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