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NNadir

(35,591 posts)
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:03 AM Yesterday

My wife's in surgery. I hate the silence in the waiting room.

Last edited Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:38 AM - Edit history (1)

Update: The doctor called. She's in recovery. The procedure went well and was sucessful.

Trying to read to keep my mind off it. The doctor is well rated and the procedure as heart procedures go is low risk. Still I'm really stressed. We're an hour into it according to the progress monitor.

I don't want to turn the damn TV on. It would make me crazy.
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My wife's in surgery. I hate the silence in the waiting room. (Original Post) NNadir Yesterday OP
... 2naSalit Yesterday #1
Oh, I know the feeling both being in surgery and waiting for surgery to be done on loved ones Walleye Yesterday #2
Do an online crossword or visit the DU lounge. And let us know when she's in recovery. sinkingfeeling Yesterday #3
I hope all goes well. LoisB Yesterday #4
Peace. cachukis Yesterday #5
FWIW, I walk around the hospital when doing this. Gore1FL Yesterday #6
I hope it goes very well. brer cat Yesterday #7
I'm sitting with you in spirit. Alliepoo Yesterday #8
((NNadir)) blm Yesterday #9
🫂 mwmisses4289 Yesterday #10
Hoping all goes well with your wife 💚 sending healing and comforting energy 💚😌 Clouds Passing 23 hrs ago #11
Sending you warm thoughts for the wellbeing of you both ! Karadeniz 23 hrs ago #12
Good vibes to you and your wife True Dough 23 hrs ago #13
Hoping for a successful outcome! Wicked Blue 23 hrs ago #14
Healing vibes to her SheltieLover 22 hrs ago #15
You sit there waiting and watching the rest of the world carry on in their normalcy, while KitFox 22 hrs ago #16
The waiting sucks. Wishing for you some peaceful thoughts. Solly Mack 22 hrs ago #17
Very normal for you to feel that way Jarqui 22 hrs ago #18
Hugs to you and your wife Duncanpup 22 hrs ago #19
All done. She's in recovery and the procedure was sucessful. NNadir 22 hrs ago #20
We're with you Sienna86 22 hrs ago #21
We're with you, NNadir, and sending love and good energy for you and your wife. wordstroken 21 hrs ago #22
Good news. 👍 electric_blue68 19 hrs ago #23
Glad to see the update. I kind of shot past the OP, but caught it on the second pass. eppur_se_muova 15 hrs ago #24
It's what she was in for, ablation to stop the afib episodes. Those episodes have been scaring the shit out of us... NNadir 14 hrs ago #27
Ugh ... your wife's case sounds more severe than Mom's. She didn't have the ablation procedure (yet) but her ... eppur_se_muova 14 hrs ago #29
Glad Things Are Ok So Far ProfessorGAC 14 hrs ago #25
That's wonderful news! JMCKUSICK 14 hrs ago #26
Sending good vibes claudette 14 hrs ago #28
Great! Here's hoping for a speedy recovery surfered 13 hrs ago #30
Wishing her a speedy recovery. sinkingfeeling 12 hrs ago #31

Walleye

(39,625 posts)
2. Oh, I know the feeling both being in surgery and waiting for surgery to be done on loved ones
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:09 AM
Yesterday

It’s frightening beyond words. I hope sincerely everything turns out all right for you and she recovers fully and quickly.

sinkingfeeling

(55,056 posts)
3. Do an online crossword or visit the DU lounge. And let us know when she's in recovery.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:09 AM
Yesterday

Hang in there.

Gore1FL

(22,392 posts)
6. FWIW, I walk around the hospital when doing this.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:13 AM
Yesterday

It keeps my mind occupied and deals with the blood pressure I get worrying.

My thoughts are with you and your wife.

Alliepoo

(2,685 posts)
8. I'm sitting with you in spirit.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:36 AM
Yesterday

The time in the waiting room is awful. I’m sending all good vibes to your wife and a big ((HUG)) to you as you are waiting to hear from the doctor. I know it will all be good but that doesn’t make the wait any easier. Let us know when you hear!!!

True Dough

(22,712 posts)
13. Good vibes to you and your wife
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 10:57 AM
23 hrs ago

May you be a short time away from relief and reassurance.

KitFox

(284 posts)
16. You sit there waiting and watching the rest of the world carry on in their normalcy, while
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:26 AM
22 hrs ago

your world is at a standstill. Hoping the blissful relief when the doc approaches with good news comes soon! Sending hugs to you and your dear wife. Please keep us updated. 🩷

Jarqui

(10,624 posts)
18. Very normal for you to feel that way
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:35 AM
22 hrs ago

Even medical procedures that are deemed 99.9x% likely to be successful can drive me crazy
Your wife married the right person.

NNadir

(35,591 posts)
20. All done. She's in recovery and the procedure was sucessful.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:39 AM
22 hrs ago

Thanks for all the good wishes.

wordstroken

(1,057 posts)
22. We're with you, NNadir, and sending love and good energy for you and your wife.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 12:03 PM
21 hrs ago

I truly know how you feel as you wait. The silence can be overwhelming.

Great news of your update. So glad she’s in recovery and doing well.

eppur_se_muova

(38,865 posts)
24. Glad to see the update. I kind of shot past the OP, but caught it on the second pass.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 06:29 PM
15 hrs ago

A little late for best wishes for the procedure, but I can still wish you both a good recovery.


Several years ago, my mom had her heart stopped and restarted to try to bring her afib under control. It's probably the lowest-risk cardiac procedure you can get, but just the thought was anxiety-inducing -- anything concerning the heart is, whatever the doctors say, so I can sympathize. (She came out of it fine, but still with afib.)

NNadir

(35,591 posts)
27. It's what she was in for, ablation to stop the afib episodes. Those episodes have been scaring the shit out of us...
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 07:28 PM
14 hrs ago

...for quite some time. They've been managed with propranolol, but apparently with age, the drug loses effectiveness.

Apparently it's a familial genetic thing with her mother and uncles, an extra node.

We figured we'd deal with it before the country collapses which it seems to be doing.

eppur_se_muova

(38,865 posts)
29. Ugh ... your wife's case sounds more severe than Mom's. She didn't have the ablation procedure (yet) but her ...
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 07:39 PM
14 hrs ago

cardiologist seems to think it's not a good idea at her age (88). She just had the "jumper start", which sometimes resets the rhythm. She relies on metoprolol, which is not as strong, but more selective, than propranolol. (Plus Xarelto to avoid clots, plus levothyroxin to offset the side effects of Xarelto ...)

Lots of luck to both of you. Mom's lived with her condition for years now, but no one has ever said her condition was genetic, so maybe not as reassuring as we'd like.

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