Black author recounts nightmare racism on vacation cruise

[orangecrush]

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Sadly believable.

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[Ocelot II]

1. "Authoress"?

[orangecrush]

7. Archaic

Miriam Webster


authoress
noun
au·​thor·​ess ˈȯ-th(ə rəs
somewhat old-fashioned
: a woman or girl who is an author

[yardwork]

14. And note that the video doesn't even call her that!!!

[orangecrush]

27. Any thoughts on the racism

Or were you just interested in the op title?

[orangecrush]

18. Corrected

Apologies.

Any thoughts on the racism?

Or did you only read the op title?

[Ocelot II]

19. I don't usually watch videos so I'll have to take your word for it.

I clicked on the link only because of the use of the word "authoress."

[orangecrush]

20. Ok thanks

[dalton99a]

2. "Chuck and Stephanie from Alberta"

[Samael13]

3. I learned something new today

I always thought author was a all inclusive term I didnt know there was a term specifically for women

[orangecrush]

8. Miriam Webster

authoress
noun
au·​thor·​ess ˈȯ-th(ə rəs
somewhat old-fashioned
: a woman or girl who is an author

[obamanut2012]

22. Modern usage is considered sexist

[orangecrush]

28. Ok sorry

[yardwork]

16. There's no need for it.

There's no need to call people poetesses, authoresses, actresses, stewardesses, waitresses, or any of the other silly terms that imply that women are less than the standard.

[obamanut2012]

21. It is, modern usage is considered sexist

[maveric]

4. Summary!

[orangecrush]

9. Woman gets told by Kevin and Karen

That she has no business being in first class.

Accuse her of getting admission by sexual favors.

Karen kicks water in her face.

[maveric]

12. Thats fucked up.

[orangecrush]

13. Totally

[WhiskeyGrinder]

5. article:

https://travelnoire.com/toni-tone-cruise

In a pair of viral TikTok videos, British author Toni Tone recounted what she described as “the most racist encounter” of her life while vacationing on a Virgin Voyages cruise with her mother. The incident, which took place in a VIP area known as “Richard’s rooftop,” involved a couple who repeatedly questioned her presence in the exclusive section, complained to staff about her, and eventually resorted to splashing water in her face while laughing.

Despite having legitimate access to the area through special VIP cards, Toni faced escalating harassment that culminated in the female aggressor implying she had exchanged sexual favors for her cruise tickets. “I was in so much shock,” Toni explained in her video, describing how she refused to give her harassers the satisfaction of an emotional reaction despite the humiliation they attempted to inflict.

The confrontation began innocuously when an older man photobombed a picture Toni’s mother was taking of her. Shortly after, the man approached Toni and questioned how she gained access to the VIP area despite staff confirming she had proper authorization. The situation escalated when the couple realized complaints to staff wouldn’t result in Toni’s removal from the area.

Toni described how the couple, whom she called “Chuck and Stephanie” from Alberta, Canada, attempted to provoke a reaction from her that might justify her removal. When Toni entered the hot tub where they were sitting, the woman deliberately kicked water into her face while the couple laughed. They explicitly questioned how a Black woman could have legitimately accessed the VIP area.

[orangecrush]

10. Thank you

[LearnedHand]

6. "Author," exactly like the title of the video

There is zero reason ever to diminish women’s importance by adding the -ess diminutive to their professional title.

[orangecrush]

11. Merriam Webster

authoress
noun
au·​thor·​ess ˈȯ-th(ə rəs
somewhat old-fashioned
: a woman or girl who is an author

[orangecrush]

15. No one said anything diminutive

Sorry you have nothing of substance to say about the op.

[yardwork]

17. It is by definition diminutive.

[ProfessorGAC]

29. Agreed, Generally; Not Specifically

I completely agree that adding the "-ess" is archaic & unnecessary.
Nobody calls Gretchen Whitmer "Governess". She's called "Governor".
Nobody called Jane Byrne "Mayoress". They called her "Mayor".
Where we disagree is that it's diminutive.
Doggie is a diminutive of dog. Kitty is a diminutive of cat.
Authoress is gender specific (needlessly) but not diminutive.

[orangecrush]

37. Thanks, Professor

Usually if a term is deprecating, the dictionary will define it as such.

Still, I have no desire to offend anyone here, so I corrected it and will not use it.

[obamanut2012]

23. Modern usage of "authoress" is considered sexist -- why did you change author to authoress?

Sexism and racism are both very, very appalling.

[orangecrush]

26. Sorry

Any comments on the racism, or didn't you make it past the op title?

[Ocelot II]

24. The suffix -"ess" is attached to words representing the default, which is or was presumptively male,

to indicate the female exception to some jobs or statuses, e.g., author, actor, host, waiter, steward, poet, comedian. To indicate the female exception, the suffix "ess" (sometimes "enne" or "ine", e.g., "heroine," "comedienne" ) was used but is now discouraged as sexist.

[orangecrush]

25. Got it

And thank you for informing me without presuming I meant offense.

I appreciate it.

[B.See]

30. potato, poTAHto -bottom line

a person had her cruise experience forever ruined by a pair of racist mfkrs who believed themselves entitled (as in PRIVILEGED) to question her legitimacy, based on the colour of her skin.

FUCK them..

[JustAnotherGen]

34. Thank you

I saw,what happened here too.

[orangecrush]

36. And with her Mom there

Just incredibly ignorant.

[B.See]

38. Exactly. Didn't watch the video, but

the write up did state the male creep began the harassment by intentionally trying to spoil photos her Mom was taking of her.

If anything, it was they who should've been removed for the harassment.

She should sue the cruise liner, if for no other reason than to obtain identifying information (via discovery) so the rest of the world can learn who these cretins are.

They didn't mind trying to embarrass, disparage her. Return the favour.

[orangecrush]

39. Exactly the point Reese Waters made

Agree wholeheartedly.

[Melon]

31. Dang.....racist Canadians. I'm one of the first to ever type that phrase. 😁

[JustAnotherGen]

33. I experienced

One in 1993.

[JustAnotherGen]

32. Of course

DU is focused on language usage instead of the fact that these two nasty *word 😃alerted at DU* fucking racists think their shit doesn't think.

I hope they both *tos violation*.

[orangecrush]

35. ...

Same