I love you all so much. You've been such a help and support! Here's an update on MAGA Funeral!

[Coventina]

Hi all,

I thank you all so much for all your responses and support on my previous threads. I read them all, and I cherish all your advice and well-wishes.

I just thought I'd give you an update on the situation, as things have changed.

1. It turns out, my brother is going to be out of town and so won't be part of the funeral or carpool. He's going to be on his annual "buddies fishing trip". He had already made his travel arrangements beforehand. This means NO friendly support at all!

2. The whole situation in the country continues to go downhill. Who knows what situation the 27th will bring? I am determined that I will NOT Carpool with them, under any circumstances.

3. I do have a friend who actually knew the deceased pretty well (at least in the past). As it turns out, she lives in the same neighborhood as where the funeral is taking place. I've reached out to her to let her know of the death, and to see if we could attend the service as a unit. I'll see what she says. If she can/will do it, that is the only way I will go.

Things have gotten so scary, with "homegrowns are next" and a pending insurrection act, that I have no problem telling my dad that I do not feel comfortable going with him. If that hurts, well, it should hurt to be a Nazi.



Coventina

[Diamond_Dog]

1. Best of luck, Coventina

[LiberalLoner]

2. Best of luck to you, stay safe! 💙💙💙

[bucolic_frolic]

3. There's strength in numbers. There should be a Concierge Event Partner for every occasion.

DUers should take note!

[erronis]

6. I really like this idea. How can we make it a service that DUers can offer?

Of course we live scattered everywhere and, I think, very few have actually had physical contact with each other.

So perhaps not geographical proximity. This sounds strange, but how about a virtual buddy on a cell phone app? Someone who is actually able to listen/watch and react as needed?

[bucolic_frolic]

13. That's also a beneficial idea. A Cell Safe Buddy.

Let's see if the idea has legs. DUers?

[fierywoman]

4. Stay safe! Trust your gut!

[LoisB]

5. Stay safe. Trust your instincts.

[erronis]

7. Thanks for letting us be part of your trials! We're all on your side.

[William769]

8. I still say don't go, but do what you got to do.

[bluestarone]

9. Best of luck to you.

I agree with William above I say don't go, but you have to do what YOU think is right.

[slightlv]

10. We're watching our words around people,

self-censoring our speech and actions. You've had to made an entire go-around plan just to attend a funeral. To say this isn't right, and isn't part of America's DNA is the grossest understatement of all time. The "level" feeling I had a month ago is gone, and is replaced with a feeling of fear, anxiety, and get-the-hell-out-of-here (tho I'm too old, with no place to go). This feeling has been building up since the first of April, and I feel like it's heading towards something horrendous, over which we (I) have no control. I'm as nervous as the proverbial cat on a hot tin roof. Wanting to do anything to bring a bit of relief to this feeling.

[wordstroken]

11. Love you right back, Coventina. Sounds like you've given your situation much scrutiny and

deep wise consideration of options. I am so sorry for the emotional turmoil your family is putting (has put) you through. (I get it — mine is the same.)

Trust your gut and you will make the best decision.

Please keep us up to date.

Much love and a big hugs.
🦋 wordstroken

[Cha]

12. Mahalo for the latest Update, Coventina

💕😎

[SheltieLover]

14. Good for you, Tina!!!

Follow your gut instinct!

[maxsolomon]

15. Have a mantra for how you'll refuse to engage.

"Politics are not appropriate at a memorial service" could work.

"If you insist on discussing this topic, I'll wind up biting your face" works, too!

[Bettie]

16. Good luck and remember

if you need to leave, you can do that.

You don't have to talk to or interact with anyone who can't act like a decent human being. You can walk away.

Someone actually had to tell me this....more than once. They then followed up with "it is not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is comfortable if they are making you uncomfortable."