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imanamerican63

(14,447 posts)
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 05:29 PM Saturday

Update, my brother in law.

The family has decided to take him off the ventilator. About an hour ago they shutdown the ventilator.

My sister did find after they were going through paperwork, my brother in law was a organ donor. So, they will take his liver and lungs and put them in the system to be transplanted.

Thank you again for all the well wishes and support.

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Update, my brother in law. (Original Post) imanamerican63 Saturday OP
I'm sorry for your loss. milestogo Saturday #1
I'm sorry. A hard decision. redwitch Saturday #2
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Saturday #3
Sincere condolences to you and your family. skylucy Saturday #4
A true act of giving, donating his organs. mercuryblues Saturday #5
From me too.. raising2moredems Saturday #38
Hopefully his life will give new life to those with other illness & Disease. N/T Jacson6 Saturday #6
I am so sorry KT2000 Saturday #7
So sorry Figarosmom Saturday #8
Sorry to hear about your Brother-in-law. Condolences to you and your family marked50 Saturday #9
... Drum Saturday #10
My deepest condolences to you and your family. AllyCat Saturday #11
So sorry for your family's loss MacKasey Saturday #12
I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of livetohike Saturday #13
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Saturday #14
My condolences. Liberal In Texas Saturday #15
Thank you to your brother in law and his family Danmel Saturday #16
Oh crap!. So, so sorry. 70sEraVet Saturday #17
condolances. "" AllaN01Bear Saturday #18
What a great kindness to share organs. irisblue Saturday #19
I am very sorry for your loss Meowmee Saturday #20
My deepest Condolences on your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Saturday #21
So sorry. bluestarone Saturday #22
Making a decision like this is an act of love for your brother-in-law. TNNurse Saturday #23
I am so sorry about this. sdfernando Saturday #24
Sorry for your loss. Americanme Saturday #25
I'm so very sorry for your loss. femmedem Saturday #26
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Saturday #27
My sincerest sympathy to you and your family, imanamerican. Diamond_Dog Saturday #28
My deepest sympathy. sinkingfeeling Saturday #29
So very sad people Saturday #30
I am so sorry for your sister. Peace be with you and your family. Fla Dem Saturday #31
So sorry to hear of your losses. Hang in there Evolve Dammit Saturday #32
I'm so sorry. highplainsdem Saturday #33
I know how hard it is Skittles Saturday #34
I'm sorry for your loss. KS Toronado Saturday #35
I'm so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Saturday #36
Very sorry for your loss. Linda ladeewolf Saturday #37
He's a true hero for being an organ donor Arazi Saturday #39
I'm so sorry, imanamerican. summer_in_TX Yesterday #40
What a courageous decision. hamsterjill Yesterday #41
Condolences to you and your family gademocrat7 Yesterday #42
I am so sorry. Trueblue Texan Yesterday #43
I'm very sorry. I had a cousin who lived seven years, until her children were teens, after a transplant. NNadir Yesterday #44
Oh man, I feel so bad for your sister. lark Yesterday #45
K&R spanone Yesterday #46
I'm sorry for your family Bettie Yesterday #47
I'm so sorry for your loss and also for your sister... LeftInTX Yesterday #48
I am sorry for your loss. waterwatcher123 Yesterday #49
Sorry for your loss Historic NY Yesterday #50
Thank you for sharing this with DU. nt LAS14 Yesterday #51
Very sorry for your loss DaBronx Yesterday #52
Sorry for your loss. yagotme Yesterday #53
..... Clouds Passing Yesterday #54
I am so sorry Lulu KC Yesterday #55
So sorry DownriverDem Yesterday #56
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk 23 hrs ago #57

raising2moredems

(719 posts)
38. From me too..
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 11:06 PM
Saturday

Being an organ donor is a sign of being a good person. While you get no say to organ recipient, it is bit consoling. I followed the wishes of a relative and "pulled the plug". No major organs could be donated but skin/connective tissue and one other part which eludes my brain at this time could be. The person on the phone apologized a few times re: the questions asked (some were of a really personal nature of the deceased). But I could truthfully answer, I did, and I hope at least one person benefited.

livetohike

(23,080 posts)
13. I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 06:24 PM
Saturday

good times with your brother in law always make you smile .

Danmel

(5,279 posts)
16. Thank you to your brother in law and his family
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 06:30 PM
Saturday

In 1990, I lost one of my dearest friends to pulmonary hypertension. She was only 30 and died waiting for a heart and lung transplant.
Organ donors are heroes who transform lives and give hope. It does nothing to take away the pain of your family's loss but will hopefully help others from suffering that pain.
I'm truly sorry for your loss.

70sEraVet

(4,265 posts)
17. Oh crap!. So, so sorry.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 06:40 PM
Saturday

I kept hoping there was a good ending to that story, and he was going to walk out of there.
His organs may well help someone else. For some reason, I've never considered doing that. Time to fix that, I guess.

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,209 posts)
21. My deepest Condolences on your loss.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 06:47 PM
Saturday

Knowing your BIL will be living on in other people is a beautiful way to remember him by.

Hugs to you and your families.

sdfernando

(5,452 posts)
24. I am so sorry about this.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:12 PM
Saturday

Condolences to you, your sister, and the entire family. At least someone will be able to live a better life because the generosity of your BIL being an organ donor.

people

(712 posts)
30. So very sad
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:45 PM
Saturday

Seems like you and your sister and other family members are caring and close, which is so important. . ..

Wicked Blue

(6,855 posts)
36. I'm so sorry for your loss
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 09:05 PM
Saturday

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

summer_in_TX

(3,330 posts)
40. I'm so sorry, imanamerican.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 12:56 AM
Yesterday

What a grief.

But what a fine person your brother-in-law must be to have thought of how he could help someone. I'm glad you have the comfort of knowing that about him. There's something eternal in giving that gift.

NNadir

(34,890 posts)
44. I'm very sorry. I had a cousin who lived seven years, until her children were teens, after a transplant.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 08:12 AM
Yesterday

Your brother-in-law in death is giving a gift of life. He must have been a wonderful man. Deepest condolences to your entire family especially your sister

lark

(24,377 posts)
45. Oh man, I feel so bad for your sister.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 08:16 AM
Yesterday

Having to make the decision to pull a loved one off a vent is a horrible one to face. I'd never want to go through that experience again - it was totally gut wrenching.

Clouds Passing

(2,931 posts)
54. .....
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 11:20 AM
Yesterday


My heart goes out to your brother in law, you and your family. I know the pain, I’ve been there.

dlk

(12,488 posts)
57. I'm very sorry for your loss
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 04:02 PM
23 hrs ago

Sending warm thoughts for comfort and peace for you, and your family.

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