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imanamerican63

(14,959 posts)
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 06:29 PM Jan 2025

Update, my brother in law.

The family has decided to take him off the ventilator. About an hour ago they shutdown the ventilator.

My sister did find after they were going through paperwork, my brother in law was a organ donor. So, they will take his liver and lungs and put them in the system to be transplanted.

Thank you again for all the well wishes and support.

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Update, my brother in law. (Original Post) imanamerican63 Jan 2025 OP
I'm sorry for your loss. milestogo Jan 2025 #1
I'm sorry. A hard decision. redwitch Jan 2025 #2
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Jan 2025 #3
Sincere condolences to you and your family. skylucy Jan 2025 #4
A true act of giving, donating his organs. mercuryblues Jan 2025 #5
From me too.. raising2moredems Jan 2025 #38
Hopefully his life will give new life to those with other illness & Disease. N/T Jacson6 Jan 2025 #6
I am so sorry KT2000 Jan 2025 #7
So sorry Figarosmom Jan 2025 #8
Sorry to hear about your Brother-in-law. Condolences to you and your family marked50 Jan 2025 #9
... Drum Jan 2025 #10
My deepest condolences to you and your family. AllyCat Jan 2025 #11
So sorry for your family's loss MacKasey Jan 2025 #12
I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of livetohike Jan 2025 #13
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Jan 2025 #14
My condolences. Liberal In Texas Jan 2025 #15
Thank you to your brother in law and his family Danmel Jan 2025 #16
Oh crap!. So, so sorry. 70sEraVet Jan 2025 #17
condolances. "" AllaN01Bear Jan 2025 #18
What a great kindness to share organs. irisblue Jan 2025 #19
I am very sorry for your loss Meowmee Jan 2025 #20
My deepest Condolences on your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Jan 2025 #21
So sorry. bluestarone Jan 2025 #22
Making a decision like this is an act of love for your brother-in-law. TNNurse Jan 2025 #23
I am so sorry about this. sdfernando Jan 2025 #24
Sorry for your loss. Americanme Jan 2025 #25
I'm so very sorry for your loss. femmedem Jan 2025 #26
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jan 2025 #27
My sincerest sympathy to you and your family, imanamerican. Diamond_Dog Jan 2025 #28
My deepest sympathy. sinkingfeeling Jan 2025 #29
So very sad people Jan 2025 #30
I am so sorry for your sister. Peace be with you and your family. Fla Dem Jan 2025 #31
So sorry to hear of your losses. Hang in there Evolve Dammit Jan 2025 #32
I'm so sorry. highplainsdem Jan 2025 #33
I know how hard it is Skittles Jan 2025 #34
I'm sorry for your loss. KS Toronado Jan 2025 #35
I'm so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Jan 2025 #36
Very sorry for your loss. Linda ladeewolf Jan 2025 #37
He's a true hero for being an organ donor Arazi Jan 2025 #39
I'm so sorry, imanamerican. summer_in_TX Jan 2025 #40
What a courageous decision. hamsterjill Jan 2025 #41
Condolences to you and your family gademocrat7 Jan 2025 #42
I am so sorry. Trueblue Texan Jan 2025 #43
I'm very sorry. I had a cousin who lived seven years, until her children were teens, after a transplant. NNadir Jan 2025 #44
Oh man, I feel so bad for your sister. lark Jan 2025 #45
K&R spanone Jan 2025 #46
I'm sorry for your family Bettie Jan 2025 #47
I'm so sorry for your loss and also for your sister... LeftInTX Jan 2025 #48
I am sorry for your loss. waterwatcher123 Jan 2025 #49
Sorry for your loss Historic NY Jan 2025 #50
Thank you for sharing this with DU. nt LAS14 Jan 2025 #51
Very sorry for your loss DaBronx Jan 2025 #52
Sorry for your loss. yagotme Jan 2025 #53
..... Clouds Passing Jan 2025 #54
I am so sorry Lulu KC Jan 2025 #55
So sorry DownriverDem Jan 2025 #56
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Jan 2025 #57

raising2moredems

(733 posts)
38. From me too..
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 12:06 AM
Jan 2025

Being an organ donor is a sign of being a good person. While you get no say to organ recipient, it is bit consoling. I followed the wishes of a relative and "pulled the plug". No major organs could be donated but skin/connective tissue and one other part which eludes my brain at this time could be. The person on the phone apologized a few times re: the questions asked (some were of a really personal nature of the deceased). But I could truthfully answer, I did, and I hope at least one person benefited.

livetohike

(23,392 posts)
13. I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:24 PM
Jan 2025

good times with your brother in law always make you smile .

Danmel

(5,395 posts)
16. Thank you to your brother in law and his family
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:30 PM
Jan 2025

In 1990, I lost one of my dearest friends to pulmonary hypertension. She was only 30 and died waiting for a heart and lung transplant.
Organ donors are heroes who transform lives and give hope. It does nothing to take away the pain of your family's loss but will hopefully help others from suffering that pain.
I'm truly sorry for your loss.

70sEraVet

(4,459 posts)
17. Oh crap!. So, so sorry.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:40 PM
Jan 2025

I kept hoping there was a good ending to that story, and he was going to walk out of there.
His organs may well help someone else. For some reason, I've never considered doing that. Time to fix that, I guess.

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,596 posts)
21. My deepest Condolences on your loss.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:47 PM
Jan 2025

Knowing your BIL will be living on in other people is a beautiful way to remember him by.

Hugs to you and your families.

sdfernando

(5,681 posts)
24. I am so sorry about this.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 08:12 PM
Jan 2025

Condolences to you, your sister, and the entire family. At least someone will be able to live a better life because the generosity of your BIL being an organ donor.

people

(775 posts)
30. So very sad
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 08:45 PM
Jan 2025

Seems like you and your sister and other family members are caring and close, which is so important. . ..

Wicked Blue

(7,889 posts)
36. I'm so sorry for your loss
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 10:05 PM
Jan 2025

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

summer_in_TX

(3,553 posts)
40. I'm so sorry, imanamerican.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 01:56 AM
Jan 2025

What a grief.

But what a fine person your brother-in-law must be to have thought of how he could help someone. I'm glad you have the comfort of knowing that about him. There's something eternal in giving that gift.

NNadir

(35,650 posts)
44. I'm very sorry. I had a cousin who lived seven years, until her children were teens, after a transplant.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 09:12 AM
Jan 2025

Your brother-in-law in death is giving a gift of life. He must have been a wonderful man. Deepest condolences to your entire family especially your sister

lark

(24,937 posts)
45. Oh man, I feel so bad for your sister.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 09:16 AM
Jan 2025

Having to make the decision to pull a loved one off a vent is a horrible one to face. I'd never want to go through that experience again - it was totally gut wrenching.

Clouds Passing

(4,454 posts)
54. .....
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 12:20 PM
Jan 2025


My heart goes out to your brother in law, you and your family. I know the pain, I’ve been there.

dlk

(12,615 posts)
57. I'm very sorry for your loss
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 05:02 PM
Jan 2025

Sending warm thoughts for comfort and peace for you, and your family.

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